Orientation
What is one of the 8 Attitudes in the orientation book?
Honesty, responsibility, willingness, open-mindedness, humility, caring, objectivity, gratitude
Name 3 Thinking errors
What is absolutes, I can't, rhetorical questions, awfulizing, statement of fact, should, have to need to must, loaded words, blaming, he she it statements
the 3 c's
what is conditions, cognitions, and choices?
Feels the need to constantly be in charge
What is a dominator?
A self-defeating thought
What is roadblocks to change
Name the 5 rules for irrational thinking
What is: are your thoughts:
based on objective reality/facts?
helping protect your life and health?
helping you achieve your short-term and long-term goals?
helping to keep you out of conflict with others?leading you to feel the way you want to feel without the use of alcohol and drugs?
A sense of being above the law, an exception to the rule
What is entitlement?
puts his own wants and needs first and ignores his basic responsibilities in a relationship
Who is the neglector?
Name a key to positive change
listening skills, sharing skills, confronting/leveling, respecting others, stages of change
RSA
What is a rational self analysis?
Sentimentality
What are self-serving acts of kindness, making yourself look good
exploit others to get what they want. proficient in "conning" others
What is the manipulator
means showing respect for the person speaking by paying attention, maintaining eye contact, and letting the person speaking finish without interruption
What is active listening?
the goals of a RSA
What is to make your awareness or perception of A activating events more accurate and objective
to make your B beliefs and thoughts more rational
to C consequently feel the way you want to feel and to act in a more rational manner
A product of self-centerdness. It results in behavior that doesn't into consideration anyone but yourself.
What is manipulation
What do you get from a healthy relationship?
What is emotional support, instrumental support, companionship, sense of connectedness and belonging, honest feedback
What are the ABC's of emotion and action?
What is A-activating event, B-beliefs, C-consequences
What helps you take a more accurate look at your awareness?
What is a camera check?
What are the criminal thinking errors
What are mollification, cutoff, entitlement, power orientation, sentimentality, superoptimism, cognitive indolence, disconinuity
The three elements of communication
What are talking, listening, and body language