Name This Scene 1
"If I don't really commit, I won't have to worry about falling short"
What is: "Fear of Failure"?
“I feel like I don’t deserve for good things to last in my life”
What is: " Shame-Based Beliefs "?
“It doesn’t feel great to be messing things up, but it makes people pay attention”
What is: "Hidden Payoffs (Secondary Gains) "?
"I think I just don't deserve happiness because of my past mistakes. Every time I try to move forward, shame whispers that I don't really deserve a better life"
What is: " Shame-Based Beliefs "?
I've dealt with them before and never got anywhere, so that's probably what will happen this time.
What is "Learned Helplessness"?
"Things were easier when nobody expected much from me"
What is: "Fear of Success"?
“I’ve tried before—nothing ever changes, so what’s the point?”
What is: "Learned Helplessness "?
When people get close, I start pulling away without knowing why.”
What is: " Trauma and Attachment Wounds "?
I tell myself that if i just complete group I can avoid relapse. But deep down i know that life is unpredictable so I'm probably going to just quit the group while I'm ahead.
What is: "Illusion of Control"?
When things are stable I feel real lost and restless so I subconsciously stir up trouble .
What is "Comfort in Chaos"?
"If people really knew me, they wouldn't think I was doing a good job"
What is: "Imposter Syndrome"?
“At least if I leave first, it’s before anyone else can get rid of me”
What is: " Illusion of Control "?
"I'm scared that if I actually succeed I'll lose everything I've known. It feels safer to stay where I am , even if it's not where I want to be"
What is: "Fear of Success "?
" Does this make any sense? I could hardly pull myself out of it when I was using. I will get so low I'll never pull myself out of it "
What is: "Fear of Always Being Depressed"?
I often feel torn between who I am and who I think I should be, making it hard to trust myself.
What is " Conflict with Self-Identity "?
Name this Fear: "I feel like I’m on the edge of falling back into my old habits again grade and if I mess up it’ll just prove that I’ll never be free of this addiction"
What is: "Fear of failure"?
“I made so many mistakes. I've done some bad things like, really bad things.
What is: "Fear of facing the past "?
"Just change - just change', they tell me. You can take care of your family then. Well, what if I'm not that kind of guy?'"
What is: "Fear of success "?
"I know if I stay where I am (I love my comfort zone), at least won't have to face the pressure to do well.
What is "Hidden Payoffs (Secondary Gains) "?
" I don't really know any of these people but they look like they ALL know what they're doing. I don't know what the h*** to do"
What is: "Finding the Right Way Forward"?
"I'd rather deal with things alone than risk opening up and getting hurt"
What is "Avoiding Vulnerability"?
“Try something new', he says. Well, how about you guarantee something new will work?”
What is: "Fear of not Finding the right way forward"?
"Well yeah, it wasn't the greatest way to live. But at least I had fun; at least I had friends. I've never really been a usual person.
What is: "Fear of being sober "?
"So - I'm a felon. I've stolen, cheated, and at least I'm still alive. I don't know how to live like they do. I really can't see them wanting much to do with me, sober or not""
What is "Fear of Being Sober"?
"I've always been the life of the party. I've never the most boring guy at the party. I know it's probably good for me but, man, I just don't know"
What is Fear of being sober"?