Social Skills and Peer Relationships
To join an ongoing group without barging in, you watch first, wait for a place to join, and use a low-pressure phrase like "Mind if I jump in?"
What is making a smooth entry? (or waiting for a natural pause)
Depending on likes, popularity, grades, appearance, or other people’s approval is called doing this with your self-worth.
What is renting your self-worth?
The main purpose of using a "Script Freeze" or a 3-second count before you speak when you are angry.
What is to give your logical brain time to boot up / to stop you from saying something you regret?
This phrase identifies the part of a difficult situation that belonged to you, even when someone else also behaved badly.
What is “My part was…”?
To infinity and beyond on the big theater screen,
The coolest toy squad that you ever have seen!
We grabbed up our seats for this fifth action ride—
Name the sequel we watched side-by-side!
What is Toy Story 5?
You keep a conversation flowing and interactive by asking questions starting with How, Why, or What, and checking in with "What do you guys think?"
What are open-ended questions / group check-ins?
This loud negative voice turns mistakes into harsh personal judgments such as, “I fail at everything.”
What is the inner critic or inner heckler?
The automatic physical warning sign that your body gives you—like your face getting hot, your jaw clenching, or your foot tapping fast—that tells you your stress levels are spiking.
What is "Physical Warning Sign", "Stress Response", or "Physiological Alert"?
In the lesson about shame and accountability, this statement separates a bad choice from a person’s identity.
What is “I messed up,” rather than “I am a mess”?
You're stuck in your seat, but the action is high,
As a fast moving ball comes rolling right by!
No standing allowed, and no hands on the ball—
Unless you’re the goalie who guards the back wall!
What is Human Foosball?
You realize it's time to rebalance the conversation when you spot cues like body language angled away, short one-word answers, or frequent phone checking.
What is reading non-verbal disinterest? (or reading the room)
Adding this three-letter word changes “I can’t do it” from a permanent defect into a temporary challenge.
What is “yet”?
In games like Captain’s Orders or System Says..., when the rules suddenly flip, what major executive functioning skill is your brain practicing?
What is Cognitive Flexibility (accept "Rule Shifting", "Mental Pivoting", or "Overriding an Old Habit")?
A teen says, “My friend was talking trash, but I chose to yell back instead of walking away.” This is an example of this type of statement.
What is a clean explanation or responsibility statement?
I show up before group, and I bring out the sighs,
The moment I appear, you all roll your eyes!
Your phones and your trinkets must drop in my space,
To keep you focused and present right here in this place.
What is the belongings bucket or cell phone bucket?
During a disagreement, you hit a self-regulation "pause button," consider your choices, and express your feelings using the formula: "I felt [emotion] when [action] happened."
What is using an "I-Statement" while self-regulating?
Loyalty, honesty, creativity, courage, kindness, and resilience belong in this part of the “Values versus Image” circles.
What is the inside circle, internal character, or personal values?
The scientific name of the front part of the brain that helps you slow down, think, and make smart decisions instead of just reacting.
What is the pre-frontal cortex (also accept "front of the brain", "frontal lobe", or "opposite of the amygdala"?
In the Consequence Vector lesson, these three areas were affected by the ripple of a choice.
What are me, home or school, and the community?
On this rainy field trip, we braved the severe storm,
Looking for salamanders where nature takes form.
A few walked in downpours and soaked through their shoes—
What wildlife refuge did our muddy boots choose?
What is Clay Hill?
When a conflict finishes, both sides give up a small piece of what they wanted to meet in the middle, offer a genuine apology, and agree on a path forward.
What is compromise and relationship repair?
A teen fails one math quiz and concludes, “I’m stupid and bad at school.” Name the inner-critic tactic and the reality check.
What are the Labeler and “one event does not define my identity”?
Your friends stop texting back in the group chat for hours. Your brain automatically tells you, 'They all hate me.' What mind trick or cognitive distortion is happening here?
What is Mind Reading / Negative Automatic Thoughts (Assuming the worst without proof)?
A teen already has a D because of four missing assignments. Name the static fact and one controllable next step.
What is: the D and missing work are facts, but completing or asking for help with one assignment is controllable?
Try me in Keepy Uppy if you’re feeling real bold,
A crafty maneuver for stories untold!
I can save a low drop with a quick little loop,
Or get stuck and ruin it... I am the ______!
What is the Scoop?