It’s in the details.
What are 2 kinds of intimacy?
Spiritual, Aesthetic, affectional, sexual, recreational, physical, emotional, intellectual, and social.
What is the healthy boundary to this unhealthy one – Giving as much as I can give in a relationship?
I do not give beyond what I can afford materially or emotionally because it makes me feel secure to think I have “sacrificed” for the other person.
A support group that can help with issues of codependency?
CoDA
Which symptom can be “blurry or weak”?
Poor Boundaries.
Which symptom focuses on needing to help others?
Caretaking.
Where do we 1st learn how we should value ourselves and start to build self-esteem from?
Parents/caregivers.
What is the healthy boundary to this unhealthy one – Going against personal values or rights in order to please others?
I have values which are not negotiable in a relationship. I am not willing to do “anything” for a partner.
What are the 5 love languages?
Physical touch, words of affirmation, acts of service, gifts, quality time.
Which symptom finds a hard time saying no to others?
People – pleasing.
Which symptom has you absorbing someone else’s words?
Reactivity.
What is a sign to know you are controlling?
Tension, blaming, urgency and refusing to feel.
What is the healthy boundary to this unhealthy one – Falling apart so someone will take care of me?
I do not play games about how I feel to get sympathy or support.
What is emotional reactivity?
Involuntary and usually overly intense reaction to an external emotional stimulus.
Which symptom has you afraid to be truthful?
Dysfunctional communication.
Which symptom do you fall into if you can’t stop thinking about someone?
Obsessions.
DOUBLE JEOPARDY
What do you need to build intimacy?
Trust, self-esteem, self-awareness, assertiveness.
What is the healthy boundary to this unhealthy one – Talking at an intimate level on the first meeting?
I do not overwhelm a person with things about me. I trust step-by-step as I feel I am getting trust in return.
What helps to build self-esteem?
Challenging old negative beliefs ‘Is it fact or a belief?’
Which symptom can keep you from becoming close to someone?
Problems with intimacy.
Which symptom can hide as a disguise?
Low Self-esteem.
How many symptoms are there of codependency (according to the handout.)
12
What is the healthy boundary to this unhealthy one – Touching a person without asking?
I do not touch others without thinking about whether they have given me signals that it’s okay. If I am in doubt, I ask before touching.
Which symptom can violate boundaries through manipulation?
Control
Which symptom can have you not able to leave the relationship?
Dependency.
In which symptom do you keep complaining about something or just hop from 1 relationship to the next?
Denial