Social Skills
Your friend is telling you about a difficult day at work. Instead of interrupting or thinking about what you want to say next, you focus on what they are saying and show them you are paying attention.
Active Listening
“Everyone does it, so it's okay.” What are you doing?
Making excuses.
Someone makes you angry in traffic. What should you do first?
Stop and think.
What should you do before trying to solve a problem?
Clearly identify/define the problem.
Your counselor gives you instructions for an assignment, but you aren't sure what they mean or what you're supposed to do next.
Asking Questions
“It's their fault I got angry.” What are you doing?
Blaming others.
An old friend asks you to use. What should you do?
Make a safer choice.
Why should you come up with more than one solution to a problem?
It allows you to compare choices and consequences rather than acting on the first idea.
You and your roommate both want to use the car at the same time. You talk about what each of you needs and try to find a solution that works for both of you.
Negotiating
“I've gotten away with it before, so I'll get away with it again.” What's the problem?
Thinking you won't get caught.
You're angry and thinking about doing something you'll regret. What can you change first?
Your thinking.
When comparing possible solutions, what should you consider?
Possible positive and negative consequences for yourself and others.
Your friend tells you they didn't get the job they really wanted and says they feel like a failure. You recognize that they're upset and try to support them.
: Responding to the Feelings of Others
“I already messed up, so I might as well keep using.” What's a better thought?
One mistake doesn't mean give up.
You make a bad choice and want to lie about it. What's the better choice?
Tell the truth.
You need to attend treatment, but your ride cancels 30 minutes before group. Name three possible solutions.
Call another sober/supportive person, use public transportation, rideshare, contact treatment, ask about another transportation option, etc.
Someone starts yelling at you because they believe you did something wrong. You feel yourself getting angry too, but you don't want the situation to get worse.
Responding to Anger
What's a better choice than blaming someone else for your actions?
Take responsibility.
You're invited somewhere you know will put your recovery at risk. What's a good choice?
Avoid the risky situation.
What's the difference between reacting to a problem and responding to a problem?
Reacting is often immediate/emotional, while responding involves stopping, thinking, considering options and consequences, and then choosing an action.