Communication
INTENTION is what a person may think or feel during an action or conversation.
VERSES
IMPACT Refers to how that behavior makes the other person feel. This is how your actions were perceived by the other person.
Ex: You make a joke with your friends, but they don't laugh at it. Your INTENTION was to be funny, but your IMPACT was you hurt his or her feelings.
Why do you think it's important to learn about INTENTION v. IMPACT?
What is understanding the influence our words, actions, and behaviors have on other people
The anger iceberg activity identified anger as the easiest emotion to recognize in others yet it masks deeper feelings like disappointment, shame, overwhelm, hunger, embarrassment, disrespect etc
What was the purpose for this activity?
What is recognizing that anger often masks deeper emotions. The activity helps to increase awareness of emotional triggers and reduce reactive responses during conflict.
What was the purpose of the body mapping exercise?
Reminder: Drew a large body on poster board and had members draw out different symbols indicating how our emotions show up physically in our body.
Ex: Nervous = sweaty hands, increased heart rate; Angry = Pounding in the head & tension in shoulders, face flushes red
What is identifying where emotions show up in the body through physical sensations to build emotional awareness
Select the response that best demonstrates Listening to Understand verses Listening to React?
A. Well if you just would do X, Y, and Z then you wouldn't be so stressed out
B. I hear that you're feeling overwhelmed, is there anything I can do to better support you?
What is A. Listening to React
What is B. Listening to Understand
In the Back-to-Back drawing activity, you both took turns as "the speaker" & "the listener." The speaker described (in detail) a photograph of geometric shapes as well as different categories like holidays, food, animals, etc while the listener drew out what the speaker said without asking any questions.
What was the purpose of the this activity?
What is highlighting the importance of active listening and listening to clear, concise instructions to reduce misunderstandings
Describe the 5-Senses Grounding Technique
What is the Grounding technique that utilizes Sight, Sound, Smell, Touch, Taste (Alternative option: can substitute for Colors and/or Shapes as well) to slow down racing thoughts and reduce anxiety by anchoring the mind in the present moment
Noble Intent is the positive well-meaning motivation behind a family member’s behavior.
Ex1:
- Behavior: Mom & dad require you all to attend school
- Noble Intent: Mom & dad want you all to acquire healthy social, emotional and behavioral skills that will set you up for success in the future.
Try these below:
1) Behavior: Julie chooses to step away from an escalating argument rather than participate
- What is the noble intent?
2) Behavior: Paul or Grace will start an argument resulting in the other person firing back insulting words or it leading to physical escalation.
- What is the noble intent?
1) What is your best guess!
Possible option for answer:
Julie is aiming to de-escalate conflict to prevent hurtful words from being expressed, not to avoid or dismiss the other person.
2) What is your best guess!
Possible option for answer:
Paul and/or Grace are attempting to have their voice heard and validated, even if expressed through criticism or escalation. Conflict often reflects investment in the relationship, with efforts to repair or shift the other person's perspective. One or both of you may feel disrespected, so the conflict is an attempt to re-establish fairness or boundaries.
What do you think the purpose of playing Feelings Charades (utilizing the feelings wheel) was intended to teach?
What is identifying whether our body language accurately reflects our emotions and how those emotions may be perceived by others without verbal communication
Describe the Categories grounding technique
Ex: Fruits & Veggies, Dog Breeds, Countries, Celebrities
What is choosing a category to focus on for a specific time frame to reduce anxious and distress thoughts by focusing on the here and now
What is one thing you have learned about yourself and/or each other since beginning FFT?
What is your own self-reflection!
Describe what you learned while doing the "Stranded on an Island" activity
Reminder: Started with 25 essential survival items, eliminated individually to 10 and then as a group to 5.
*** If Paul or Craig chooses this, have them select a different option!!
What is your own reflection on what you learned!!
Possible takeaway:
To encourage teamwork using both process of elimination, reasoning and rationale behind decision-making to resolve conflict
What skill could you practice to self regulate your emotions?
What is whichever one works best for you!
What helps each of you to feel heard and understood?
What is any answer you provide!
Potential responses: What is active listening, not interrupting, listening to understand instead of listening to react, following through when making a commitment (ex: cleaning up)
Remember the optical illusions listed below:
Ex1: Baby + lake scene
Ex2: Face + word "LIAR"
Ex3: Bird holding something in mouth + man in a canoe on island (i.e. Coy fish, Sombrero)
Ex4: Old woman + young girl
What was the purpose behind this exercise?
What is with no right or wrong answer, this activity helps family members develop empathy and understanding of one another's thoughts, feelings, and experiences by exploring different interpretations of the same image.
In Summary, the skills taught throughout FFT included:
- Communication
- Feelings Identification
- Emotional Regulation
- Perspective Taking
What is one thing you found to be the most beneficial from FFT therapy? OR one thing that you found not to be effective overall?
What is your own insight and reflection!