Name That Emotion
Circle of Control
What to do when...
Communication 101
Conflict Cycle

What is another word for mad?

Angry, frustrated, furious, etc

Name 5 things you have control over.

My emotions, my actions, my words, my reactions and my thoughts.


Name a coping skill you can use when you are feeling lonely

write a poem, play an instrument, ask mom/Aries to play a game or watch a movie. 


Give an example of an "I" statement

"I feel _____ when _____"


Describe the conflict cycle

The components of the conflict cycle are conflict, feelings, behavior, and resolution. The model is applied in analyzing an example of a negative power struggle between a two people.


How might you feel if your plans get cancelled?

sad, frustrated, lonely, etc


Name 5 things you do NOT have control over.

The weather, other peoples words, other peoples actions, other peoples emotions, other peoples reactions. 


What can you do if you're feeling frustrated after a miscommunication?

Take a deep breath, ask questions to clarify, utilize "I" statements 

Give an example of a thinking error

Mind reading, Assuming the worst, Fortune telling, Should Statements, Setting standards too high, etc.


Name an example of a resolution in a conflict cycle

taking space to cool off and revising the conflict when you are calm or creating a fair compromise.


You notice someone is sighing a lot, they seem to be low energy and look like they haven't slept well. How might they be feeling?

sad, depressed, lonely, etc.


Can I expect someone else to know what I'm feeling if I have not communicated with them by using my words?

NO, you can use your words to communicate your feelings with others, the other person may also ask clarifying questions.


You find yourself angry and wanting to hit someone or throw something. What is a positive replacement behavior you could do instead.

Punch a pillow, go for a walk, etc


How can thinking errors make it difficult to communicate with others.

Thinking errors can cloud our thinking as we interpret other peoples actions or words. We may act without knowing the other person's true thoughts or feelings. This may lead to miscommunication or mistrust. 


Give a personal example of time you recognized a conflict cycle and discuss the resolution. 

any example will do.


Name the four zones of regulation.

RED (anger) BLUE (sadness) YELLOW (fear/stress) GREEN (happiness) 


Can I expect someone to do what I say after I used my words to ask them?

NO, ideally we would like for people to listen but do not have control over other peoples actions.


What coping skill can you use when you are feeling angry?

Go for a bike ride, take deep breaths, take a shower.


How can you combat thinking errors?

Asking clarifying questions, positive affirmations, identifying facts vs feelings, etc.


How can you avoid engaging in the conflict cycle.

Active listening, seeking to understand the other persons perspective, taking space when you notice the conversation is not productive, compromise before engaging in an argument, understand you can not get what you want 100% of the time. 


How does your body tell you that you are getting frustrated or mad? bonus *100* if you can tell us how your body feels when you are sad/lonely, anxious, and happy. 

You may feel tightness in your chest. Your face may feel warm. Your heart rate may increase. You may clench your jaw or fists. 


Someone said something that hurt your feelings. How do you respond while considering the circle of control? 

A. Yell at them and hurt their feelings back.

B. Utilize an "I" statement to let them know they've said something to hurt your feelings. 

C. Assume they did it on purpose and never talk to them again. 



You notice yourself becoming frustrated because you can not hear one another when talking through the door... what can you do to resolve this problem?

open the door and have a conversation face to face so that you can pick up on non verbal queues. 


Affirm your opponent. 

any *serious* affirmation will do:) 


How can understanding the conflict cycle help you in relationship with others. 

The conflict cycle can increase your awareness of the way you communicate with others. It can also increase your awareness of the way you choose to communicate your desires and needs.