Not Just Statistics, but an Epidemic
26% of _____ and 15% of ____ who were victims of intimate partner violence reported that their first experience of violence was before the age of 18.
What is 26% of women and 15% of men?
3 different types of abuse
What are physical, sexual, emotional, mental, financial, digital, and neglect?
The number one most effective prevention of teen dating violence
What is "educating preteens and young teens about how to form HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS with others"?
Some common characteristics that abusers display are...
Often denies the existence or minimizes the seriousness of the violence and its effect
Objectifies the victim
Has low self-esteem and feels powerless and ineffective in the world
Externalizes the causes of their behavior. Blames it on stress, the partner, a bad day, etc.
May be pleasant and charming between periods of violence and often seen as a "nice person" to others outside the relationship.
The one thing you should really NOT do.
What is "try to fix them"? It is often difficult for abusive people to change their behavior without professional support. You can encourage them to work with a therapist, but they have to make the choice themselves.
One in three teens in the US will experience physical, sexual, or emotional abuse from someone they are in a relationship with before they become ______.
What is "adults"?
3 types of emotional/mental abuse
Insults, intimidation, humiliation, extreme jealousy, insecurity, controlling behavior, isolation from friends and family, explosive temper or unusual moodiness, constantly monitoring social media and cell phone usage, invasions of privacy or showing up unannounced, leaving unwanted gifts or items, threatening to kill/harm themselves if you leave them, forcing you to use drugs/alcohol.
The most common warning signs of teen dating violence
What is displaying jealousy, asking for passwords to one's devices or accounts, and insisting on spending every free moment together?
Abusive behavior relates to the desire to maintain these 2 things.
What are power and control?
When going into a conversation with your teen, the following 2 points are examples of ______
1. You want to have a conversation which reinforces to your teen that you are a real resource that they are safe going to. This means you want your child to know you will act to help them and will be a non-judgmental listener.
2. You want your teen to understand that there are realistic strategies for safety and dealing with the situation.
Primary goals
As with adult intimate partner violence, many teenagers who experience violence in their dating relationships do not ________ .
What is "tell anyone"?
3 types of physical abuse
scratching or biting, pushing or shoving, slapping, kicking, choking or strangling, throwing things, force feeding or denying food, using weapons or objects that could hurt you, physically restraining you, reckless driving, blocking you from exiting, not letting you do self-care, forcing you to dress a certain way or wear your hair/makeup a certain way, forcing you to use drugs/alcohol.
True or False: Controlling behaviors and violence in a relationship usually improve or go away after some time.
FALSE
What is a psychological condition that occurs when a victim of abuse identifies and attaches, or bonds, positively with their abuser?
Stockholm syndrome
What is 1 domestic abuse resource?
National Domestic Violence Hotline
National Coalition Against Domestic Violence
TAP
Refuge
SARA (Supporting Survivors of Sexual Violence)
Turning Point Domestic Violence Emergency Shelter
Safe Horizon
Love is Respect
Those teens who identify as _______ are often even more likely to experience abuse.
LGBTQ+
3 types of sexual abuse
Public displays of affection when you've asked them not to, sexual harassment, sexual exploitation, indecent exposure, sexual deviance, aggressive sexual behavior, bondage without consent, sexual assault, rape in any form, coercion rape in any form, creating media of sexual activities without consent, sharing sexual media of you with others without your consent, forcing you to view sexual media, derogatory roleplay, sabotage of birth control methods or refusal to honor agreed upon methods, etc.
3 more EARLY warnings signs of abuse
What are pushing for quick involvement, controlling behavior, unrealistic expectations, isolation, blaming others for problems or mistakes, making others responsible for their feelings, hypersensitivity, cruelty to animals or children, verbal abuse, crossing your boundaries, sudden mood swings, rigid roles, past battering, threats of violence, controlling behaviors using social media or technology
The hardest type of abuse to identify
Emotional abuse is often a foundation for other forms of abuse. It is used to erode a person's self-esteem and self-worth and create a psychological dependency on the abusive partner.
Start the conversation!
Talk with your kids on their level
Talk often
Be available to them
Give your undivided attention
Don't be upset
Don't be afraid to let them know you are concerned for their safety
Acknowledge that they may be in a very difficult and scary situation.
Let them know that abuse is NEVER their fault
Be supportive
Don't judge
Encourage them to participate in activities and friends outside of the relationship
50% of young people who experience rape of physical or sexual abuse will attempt ______.
To commit suicide.
What is any unwanted sexual activity that happens when you are pressured, tricked, threatened, or forced in a nonphysical way?
Example: "Come on, I know you want to. You would do it if you really loved me."
What's this called?
Coercion. This is a form of rape, as you did not freely and voluntarily consent to the action.
Coercion can also occur in a non-sexual way, such as person A insisting that person B ride a roller coaster with them even though person B has already said no they don't want to, and person A pouts all night and convinces person B to have a few drinks with the hope they can convince them to ride the roller coaster. Person A coerced person B into doing something they have stated they do not want to do.
90% of domestic abusers do not have _______ , as abusers are generally law-abiding outside the home.
What is "criminal records"?
TRUE or FALSE: Studies indicate that if your partner has injured you once, it was probably just once and it won't happen again.
FALSE. It is likely that they will continue to assault you.
What are some reasons that teens don't tell parents or friends about the violence they are experiencing?
They are afraid their parents will make them break up
They are embarrassed or ashamed
Afraid of getting hurt
Convinced that is is their fault or that their parents will blame them or be dissappointed
They may be confused - they may think this is what a relationship is all about
Afraid of losing privileges like being able to stay out late or use the car