All about trauma
An experience that is very scary, dangerous, or upsetting and can affect how someone feels, thinks, or acts
What is trauma?
Permission or agreeing to something.
What is consent?
The person who broke the rule.
Who is responsible when someone breaks a body safety rule?
The parts of the body covered by a swimsuit or underwear
What are “private parts”?
A short time, until it’s time to reveal them.
How long do surprises usually last?
Can cause trouble sleeping, headaches, stomachaches, racing heart, and feelings of nervousness.
What are ways trauma can affect the body?
Saying no, moving away, asking someone to stop, telling an adult.
How to show boundaries?
Children are never responsible when an adult breaks a body safety rule.
Who is responsible when an adult breaks a body safety rule?
A child can (and should) say no to a touch that makes them uncomfortable?
Is this true?
Feeling scared, worried, confused, guilty, or uncomfortable?
What feeling might be a clue that a secret should not be kept?
Fight, flight, or freeze
What are the three common “survival responses”?
Surprises are eventually shared; unsafe secrets are meant to be kept hidden and can make someone feel worried, scared, or uncomfortable.
What is the difference between a surprise and an unsafe secret?
If a trusted adult doesn’t listen, you should keep telling other trusted adults until someone helps.
What to do if an adult doesn’t listen to me?
Tell a trusted adult.
If someone asks you to keep a secret about touching, what should you do?
Does this secret make me feel safe or unsafe?
If someone says, “This is our special secret,” what should you ask yourself?
Two people experience the same event but feel differently about it.
What is perspective?
The area around our bodies where we feel comfortable and safe.
What is personal space?
Tell a trusted adult.
What to do when a person breaks a body safety rule?
Teacher, counselor, school nurse, grandparent, coach, etc.
Name two trusted adults, other than your parents, that you can talk to if they feel unsafe?
They may not want others to know they broke a rule or did something wrong.
Why do some people ask to keep unsafe secrets?
A real danger is happening right now; a trauma reminder is something that reminds you of a past danger.
What is the difference between a real danger and a trauma reminder?
It helps people feel safe, comfortable, and respected
Why is it important to respect another person’s personal space?
If someone is bigger or older, it can be hard for a child to stop them.
Is this true?
Get to a safe place and tell a trusted adult.
What should you do if someone makes you feel unsafe or breaks a body safety rule?
What is more important: protecting a secret or protecting someone’s safety?