True or False
People who sexually abuse children are usually strangers
False
90% of time, the abuser is someone the child and parent knows and trusts
What is a perpetrator?
a person who carries out a harmful, illegal, or immoral act. Typically, this relates to the person who abused someone else.
How many times do people lie about abuse or witnessing domestic violence?
Symptoms of PTSD?
What is:
Reexperiencing.
hyperarousal/hypo arousal.
negative mood and negative thinking.
avoidance
How do you recognize what your child is feeling?
Recognize your child's feelings by observing their body language, facial expressions, and behavior, and by actively listening to their words and tuning into their play. Validate. . .
FALSE
You can be traumatized by witnessing, ingesting through the 5 senses, vicariously, and secondarily.
What is Sexual Development?
Sexual Development is the process of changes in physical growth, sexual knowledge, and sexual beliefs youth come to learn and display through their behavior.
How many girls and boys are sexually abused or sexually assaulted before the age 18?
1 in every 4 girls you and 1 in every 6 boys will be assaulted before adulthood.
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How do you make holy water?
Share two feelings a child may feel after experiencing sexual abuse?
- anger, mad
- frustrated
- sad
- guilty
- afraid, scared
- worried for safety
- helpless
- and more!
Kids can sexually abuse adults.
False, no matter what.
( Even if the kid did some of the touching.)
What is sexual abuse?
Sexual abuse is ANY unwanted sexual activity by someone that violates consent or involve a power imbalance. Sexual abuse does not only mean rape or penetration. This can be any nonconsensual sexual touch!
Why are some children not able to tell about abuse.
Shame & guilt; The feel unsafe. They are trying to protect someone they love. Don't know what consent and legal consent is. Worried their parent won't believe them or can handle it. Believe they will be looked at differently.
What type of children experience abuse?
There are no types of children. Any person, of any race, from any country, rich or poor can experience abuse.
Share two feelings parents may have when their children have been sexually abused.
Sad it happened,
betrayed/hurt/angry the abuser did it,
guilty they didn’t know,
proud of their child for telling,
and more!
Some sexual abusers threaten kids that they will hurt them or a family member if the child tells about the abuse.
True
BONUS POINTS: how might this impact a child’s decision to tell about it?
What is grooming?
Grooming is a deliberate and calculated process where an abuser builds a relationship, trust, and emotional connection with a targeted individual (often a child, teen, or vulnerable adult) to manipulate, control, and eventually exploit them, usually for sexual abuse, but also for trafficking, financial fraud, or other illegal acts.
What 3 things do perpetrators need to do to keep sexual abuse a secret?
1)Get access to child
2)Set it up so child is not likely to tell
3)Set it up so if child does tell, he or she is not likely to be believed
Name three ways to calm yourself if you are feeling an extreme emotion.
Talk to someone, breath, count to ten, use a stress ball, take a walk, think happy thoughts, do something you like.
What do you call a deer with no eyes?
I have no eye deer.
Any type of abuse, emotional abuse, sexual abuse, domestic violence, physical abuse, etc. can sometimes be blamed on the child or victim.
FALSE
It is NEVER the child's fault or victim's fault. The person who did the abusing is ALWAYS to blame, no matter what.
What is a safe adult?
Any adult you can trust with your information that will believe you and help you get the assistance you need.
What percent of kids never tell about the abuse they experience?
40% never tell a soul, even when they grow up. Most who do tell wait until they are adults to share this information.
How many senses do we have? and name them
Sight
Hearing
Touch
Taste
Smell
Share two reasons kids sometimes blame themselves for sexual abuse.
Common worries kids have include: they feel guilty they didn’t stop the sexual abuse, because they didn’t tell or didn’t tell sooner, some of the ways the abuser touched them felt good or confusing to their bodies, they liked the attention or accepted the things the abuser gave them.