Goals & Decisions
What is the difference between a wish and a goal?
A goal includes a specific plan/ action for reaching it.
True or False: Feeling angry is bad.
False, all emotions are okay; what matters is how we respond.
Name 3/4 communication styles. If you can name 4/4, double points.
Passive, aggressive, assertive, passive aggressive.
Name 2 qualities of a healthy friendship.
Respect, honesty, trust, support, respecting boundaries, allowing independence, etc.
Name one behavior that can escalate conflict.
Yelling, insulting, threatening, posting, bringing in your audience, interrupting, etc.
Specific, realistic, measurable, within your control, and time-based.
Name 2 physical warning signs of a strong emotion.
Racing heart, hot face, shaking, tight jaw, sweating, butterflies, clenched fists.
Which communication style expresses your needs clearly?
Assertive
True or False: Peer pressure is always someone directly saying, "Do this."
False, it can be indirect or unspoken.
Name one behavior that can de-escalate a conflict.
Taking space, lowering your voice, listening, asking questions, getting help, etc.
You have a goal, but your original plan isn't working. What should you do?
Adjust/ change the plan instead of automatically giving up the goal.
Why is it usually easier to manage an emotion at a 4/10 than a 9/10.
You can think more clearly and have more control before the emotion becomes extremely intense.
Make this assertive instead of aggressive: "Shut up! You're so annoying!"
Your friend says, "If you were really my friend, you'd do it." What are they using?
Peer pressure/ manipulation.
Gasoline or water?: "Say it to my face!"
Gasoline- escalates conflict.
Before making an important decision, name 3 things you should consider.
Options, consequences, goals, safety, values, influences, etc.
Someone laughs after you answer incorrectly in class. Give 2 possible explanations besides "they're making fun of me."
They could be laughing about something else, talking to a friend, reacting to something unrelated, etc.
Your friend walks past you without saying hello. What is the difference between the fact and your interpretation?
Fact: They walked past and didn't say hello.
Your interpretation: They're mad at me. They hate me.
Change this into healthier self-talk: "I messed up. I'm terrible at everything."
"I made a mistake, but I can learn from it and figure out what to do differently."
Someone bumps into you in the hallway and your things fall. Their friends laugh. How can you respond so that this doesn't become a bigger problem?
Pause, pick up belongings, take space, ask what happened or for clarification.
Your friends want you to skip practice with them, but your goal is to make the starting lineup. What question could help you decide?
Does this choice move me closer to or farther from my goal?
Put these in order: Behavior→ Thought → Situation → Emotion
Situation→Thought→Emotion→Behavior
Name 4 things besides words that affect how someone communicates.
Tone, facial expression, body language, volume, timing, eye contact, listening, etc.
What is the difference between confidence and arrogance?
Confidence means believing in your abilities/ value; arrogance involves acting as though you're better or more important than others.
Hurt, embarrassment, fear, jealously, rejection, disappointment, etc.