The Three Pillars
What are the three pillars of friendship?
Proximity, timing, and energy
The nickname Mel Robbins gives to the phase after high school or college when friend groups disperse.
“The Great Scattering”
Who did Mel Robins feel excluded from in chapter 12?
Her neighbors
True or False: Spending time together regularly helps build stronger friendships.
True
What is Mel’s advice for when someone drifts away from your life?
"Let them."
This factor is impacted when you and a friend are in different life stages or seasons of life.
Timing
According to the research in the chapter, how many hours together do you need to become a close friend.
200 hours
In Chapter 13, Mel reflects that the best way to create connection is to stop waiting and do this.
Go first
True or False: The “Let Me” mindset means taking the lead in relationships instead of waiting for others to reach out.
True
Chapter 13 emphasizes that you should pursue friendships without "___."
Expectation
Which factor refers to how physically close you are to a friend and how often you see them?
Proximity
Spending 74 hours together builds what kind of friendship?
Casual friendship
Mel learned from previous experience that the connection you have with another person ______ actually breaks.
Never
True or False: All faded friendships are the result of conflict.
False
Mel Robbins compares friendship to a garden and says the healthiest ones are the ones we take time to "________."
nurture
This pillar describes the “intangible connection” or natural click between people.
Energy
A friendship may fade if this pillar changes—like someone moving away or getting a new job.
Proximity
In regards to Mel's personal story, what "Let Them" phrases does she use?
Let them exclude you. Let them drift away. Let them go.
According to Robbins, adult friendships fail mainly because of personal betrayal.
False
What types of friendships does Mel encourage you to seek?
Friendships that feel easy, mutual, and fulfilling