True/False
Child sexual abuse happens to a lot of children
True
Child sexual abuse happens to 1 in 4 girls and 1 in 6 boys
When you might clench your hands into fists, might get red in the face, might get hot all over, you might be feeling...
Angry/ Mad/ Frustrated/ Upset/ Rage
What are 3 coping skills you use when you need to calm down?
Discuss
What is abuse? (physical and sexual)
Physical- intentional act causing injury or trauma to another person or animal by way of bodily contact
Sexual- When a person touches, looks at, or takes pictures of another person's private parts (or vice versa) without consent
All kids react the same way after experiencing abuse
False
Discussion: What are some of the different ways you think kids might react?
Talk about a time you felt mad recently and how you expressed that anger.
Discuss
Bonus: Is there a more helpful way you could have responded?
Who's fault is it when someone is abused?
The person who abused someone else. It is never the victim's fault.
What is the difference between a surprise and a secret?
Surprise- eventually someone will find out about this thing (i.e. surprise party, gifts, friend or family coming into town)
Secret- no one is supposed to find this thing out ever (i.e. we know this thing is not an ok thing, someone will get hurt because of this secret)
Is it okay for people to get angry? What are some healthy ways people express their anger? What are some unhealthy ways people express their anger?
Yes
Discuss healthy ways of expressing anger.
List 10 emotion words
joy, sadness, surprised, anger, disgust, fear, playful, unhappy, disappointed, scared, frustrated,
Explain how to take deep breaths to someone who might not know how
Discuss
What is the difference between an okay touch and a not okay touch? What about a confusing touch?
Discuss
Most children are abused by strangers.
False
90% of children are abused by people they know (family members, close family friends, trusted adults).
When your face might turn red, might look away, might not know what to say or do, you might feel...
Embarrassed/ Nervous/ Unsure
What are some other emotion words that mean calm?
Peaceful, relaxed, chill, etc
If you tell a grown-up about not okay touches, and they don’t believe you, understand you, or help you, what should you do?
Tell another trusted adult.
What should you do if you are feeling uncomfortable around a person?
There is never a time where it is ok for another person to touch a child's private parts.
False
Doctors and Nurses if you are having problems near any private parts
Parents have to take care of small children
What is the difference between guilt and shame?
Guilt: I did something bad
Shame: I am a bad person
Give examples of 3 relaxation skills
Deep breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, grounding, listening to music, mindfulness, drawing, going outside
What are 3 words that can remind you of what to do if sexual abuse happens?
no go tell