Flexible Thinking
We were supposed to go to the library on Tuesday, but something came up and now we can't go.
What is a flexible way to think about this? What is an inflexible way to think about this?
Flexible: We may not be able to go today, but there are other days we can go.
Inflexible: We'll never be able to go if we can't go today!
What is assertive communication?
Assertive communication is when you say it stern and clear, but still nice.
What is 200 + 359?
559
My older brother had a friend over, and when I asked if I could play with them, he laughed at me and said no.
How can I respond to this with an I statement?
I feel/felt ________ when ________. Next time can you _______?
I feel sad when I get left out. Next time, can you include me?
True or false: Your body is made of 60% water.
True
I wanted to get a cat, but someone in my house is allergic!
What is a flexible way to think about this? What is an inflexible way to think about this?
Flexible: I can't get a cat right now, but maybe I can get one eventually.
Inflexible: I'll never get a cat now!
At recess, my friends and I were playing a game. One of them ran into me and I pushed them back. What is this style of communication?
Aggressive
I am a color, but you can eat me. What color am I?
Orange
I asked my sister if I could borrow her toys. She told me no and that toys are for babies.
How can I respond to this with an I statement?
I feel/felt ______ when ______. Next time can you ______?
I feel upset when you tell me that a hobby I like is for babies. Next time can you please not comment about my hobby?
What is 8 x 20?
160
I wanted McDonald's for dinner, and initially my parents said yes, but now they're saying no because it's snowing and they don't want to drive. I told them I hated them and it's not fair!
Is this flexible thinking?
No
Bonus (+300): What could they think instead of this?
At the library, when I went to get my book, someone else had gotten it. I told them that I wanted it and took it from their hands. They told me that they had it first and I had to give it back. What is this style of communication?
Assertive
Bonus (+200): What communication style is the first person demonstrating?
What is 0.250 + 120,000.69?
120,000.94
I want to get my ears pierced, but I'm afraid of it hurting. I told my older sister that I was afraid and she told me to stop being dumb.
How can I respond to this with an I statement?
I feel/felt ______ when ______. Next time can you ______?
I feel annoyed when you call me dumb. Next time can you please not make a rude comment?
If you've got me, you want to share me; if you share me, you haven't kept me. What am I?
A secret.
Today I was supposed to my ears pierced, but it snowed and I can't anymore.
What is a flexible way to think about this?
I may not be able to do it today, but we can't get another appointment to do it.
What is passive-aggressive communication?
When you are aggressive without fully communicating what you want.
Example: I entered a room and started breaking plates and screaming.
True or false: Your heart pumps 2000 gallons of blood through it every day.
True
I was shaving and I cut myself and I started crying. My sister saw and told me to stop being a baby.
How can I respond to this with an I statement?
I feel/felt ______ when ______. Next time can you ______?
I feel hurt when you tell me that I'm acting like a baby. Next time can you please not say that when I hurt myself?
What place value is the 9 in 2,189,027?
Thousands
I wanted a flavored soda but they didn't have it and subbed it with Dr. Pepper. I don't like Dr. Pepper!
What is a flexible way to think about this? What is an inflexible way to think about this?
Flexible: One of my other family members might like it and I can get my soda somewhere else.
Inflexible: I'll never have my favorite soda again.
A friend invited everyone in the class to their birthday party except for you. When you asked them about it, they rolled their eyes and walked away. What would be an assertive way to address this situation?
You can tell them that what they did wasn't nice and that it wasn't okay to roll their eyes at you for asking a question.
What galaxy is our solar system in?
The Milky Way
I asked my choir teacher if I could go to the bathroom. I really had to go. She told me no, and said that it's not potty time.
How can I respond to this with an I statement?
I feel/felt ______ when ______. Next time can you ______?
I felt embarrased and hurt when you said no and told me it's "not potty time." I really need to go to the bathroom. Can you please let me go?
What is 250 + 360?
610