"Is It TRUE?" (T = True)
A peer says "You're slow" as a joke. Using THINK, is this statement TRUE about you?
Hint: Does one person's joke define who you are?
No, it's not true. Their joke is just their opinion, not a fact about you
Someone posts a mean comment about you in the group chat. Is clapping back HELPFUL?
Multiple Choice:
A) Yes, they need to know you're tough
B) Yes, everyone will respect you
C) No, it escalates the drama
D) Yes, it solves the problem
C - No, it escalates the drama and keeps the conflict going
A peer pressures you to curse out a teacher. Does this action INSPIRE respect for yourself or others?
Multiple Choice:
A) Yes, it shows confidence
B) No, it damages your reputation
C) Yes, peers will think you're cool
D) It doesn't matter
B - No, it damages your reputation and how people (including teachers) see you
Someone tries to get you to curse in class. Is it NECESSARY to do this?
No. It's not necessary at all. You can decline, ignore, or change the subject. There's no real need to curse just because someone wants you to.
You want to disrupt class with a joke. Is interrupting the teacher KIND to them and your classmates trying to learn?
No, it's not kind. It disrespects the teacher's time and disrupts classmates who want to learn. The kind choice is to wait or share it at an appropriate time.
Someone makes fun of your shoes. Before responding, ask yourself: Is their opinion TRUE or just their taste?
Multiple Choice:
A) Their opinion is a fact
B) It's just their personal taste/opinion
C) Everyone agrees with them
D) You should believe them
B - It's just their personal taste/opinion
A friend wants you to help them clown/roast another student. Is joining in HELPFUL to anyone involved?
No. It's not helpful—it hurts the other person, damages trust, and could create enemies or get you in trouble
You want to make a joke during serious instruction time. Does interrupting INSPIRE others to see you as mature and respectful?
Hint: Think about how the teacher and classmates will view you.
No. Interrupting makes you look immature and disrespectful. Holding the joke shows self-control and earns respect.
You feel the urge to roast someone back after they roasted you. Is responding NECESSARY?
Multiple Choice:
A) Yes, or you'll look weak
B) No, you can just breathe and move on
C) Yes, you must defend yourself
D) Only if others are watching
B - No, you can just breathe and move on. Responding isn't necessary to prove anything.
A friend says you're "soft" for not fighting. Is fighting KIND to yourself, the other person, or your future?
Multiple Choice:
A) Yes, fighting is kind because it's self-defense
B) No, fighting is unkind and creates more harm
C) Sometimes, depending on the situation
D) Kindness doesn't matter in conflicts
A: B - No, fighting is unkind and creates more harm for everyone involved
A friend calls you "soft" because you didn't fight someone. Is it TRUE that avoiding violence makes you weak?
No, it's not true. Choosing not to fight shows self-control and strength. Fighting doesn't prove you're tough; it often creates more problems.
You have the perfect comeback to someone who roasted you. Before you say it, ask: Will this be HELPFUL or just make things worse?
Hint: Think about what happens after you say it.
It will likely make things worse. Comebacks usually lead to more roasting, escalation, and possibly a bigger conflict. It's not helpful.
A friend wants you to start a rumor about someone who was mean to them. Does spreading rumors INSPIRE trust and integrity?
No. Spreading rumors damages your integrity, breaks trust, and makes others question if you'd do the same to them. It doesn't inspire positive qualities.
A peer calls you "slow" as a joke. Is it NECESSARY to respond or defend yourself?
Hint: What happens if you just walk away?
It's not necessary. Walking away shows confidence. Responding gives them power and keeps the interaction going. Silence or walking away ends it
Someone makes fun of your shoes and you want to roast them back about their appearance. Is this response KIND?
Hint: How would you feel if someone did that to you?
No, it's not kind. Responding rudely continues the cycle of hurt. The kind response is to walk away or address it calmly without insults.
Someone says something that sounds disrespectful in the hallway. Before reacting, what TRUE question should you ask yourself first?
Hint: Think about whether it's even directed at you
"Is this actually about me?" or "Were they even talking to me?" Check the facts before assuming.
Your teacher gives a direction you don't agree with. You want to argue. Is arguing in front of the class HELPFUL to getting what you want
No. Arguing publicly often leads to consequences and makes the teacher less likely to listen. A better approach: follow the direction, then speak privately later if needed.
You're angry and want to blast someone on social media. Think about your future self in high school or at a job. Would your future self be INSPIRED by this decision?
No. Your future self would likely regret it. Digital posts are permanent, can affect opportunities, and escalate conflicts. The inspiring choice is to vent privately or cool off first.
Someone posts negativity in the group chat at 11pm. Is it NECESSARY to respond right away, or can you ignore it?
It's not necessary to respond, especially late at night when emotions run high. Ignoring it or addressing it calmly the next day (if at all) prevents escalation. Most drama dies if you don't feed it.
A peer tries to pressure you to curse in class. Is going along with it KIND to your teacher, yourself, and the peer?
No. It's unkind to the teacher (disrespectful), unkind to yourself (could get consequences), and unkind to the peer (you're enabling bad decisions). Declining is the kind choice for everyone.
You overhear someone in your group chat say "He's annoying." You think they mean you. Using the T in THINK, what should you do before confronting them?
Verify if it's TRUE that they're talking about you. Ask directly or get context. Don't assume—check facts first to avoid unnecessary conflict
Two of your friends are about to fight after school. One asks you to record it. Using HELPFUL, explain why you should refuse.
Recording isn't helpful—it encourages violence, could get you suspended, makes the fight worse, and you could be held responsible. The helpful move is to try to de-escalate or get an adult.
Open ended question:
Describe a situation from this week where you COULD have reacted negatively, but choosing to use THINK would have been more INSPIRING. What would that look like?
Example: "Someone bumped me in the hall. Instead of yelling, I could've just kept walking. That would show I'm in control and don't let small things affect me."
You see a peer talking about you behind your back. Using NECESSARY, explain when it WOULD be necessary to address it versus when it's better to let it go.
It's necessary to address if: it's affecting your safety, reputation seriously, or relationships directly. Let it go if: it's just gossip/venting, not harming you materially, or confronting would create bigger drama. Choose your battles wisely
Your friend wants you to help them "clown" another student who isn't present. Using KIND, explain why refusing is actually the kindest thing for all three people involved (you, your friend, and the target).
Refusing is kind to: (1) The target—protects them from harm; (2) Your friend—helps them avoid regret and consequences; (3) Yourself—maintains your integrity and shows you stand against cruelty. Real kindness sometimes means saying no.