This happens when you don't accept the positives about a situation, or you find excuses to turn them into negatives.
What is Discounting the Positive?
This happens when you assign judgement or unkind names to yourself or others.
What is Labeling?
This happens when you think you know what others are thinking and make assumptions.
What is Mind Reading?
"I completely failed because I messed up a little bit."
What is Magnification?
Reframe the Hopelessness thought: "What's the use, why bother trying to change now?"
Example: By reminding yourself that things can change because you have the power to change them. Remembering that other outcomes are possible.
This happens when you dwell on the negatives.
What is Negative Mental Filter?
This happens when you think everything should be equal for everyone, all the time.
What is Blame?
"How am I supposed to ignore him when he is always doing that to me?"
What is Blame?
Reframe the Heaven's Reward Fallacy thought: "I deserved a raise, they just don't like me."
Example: "I can always try again, maybe I need to improve my performance."
This happens when you place expectations on yourself.
What are Should Statements?
This happens when you make conclusions based on one piece of evidence.
What is Overgeneralization?
This is when you feel it, so it must be true.
What is Emotional Reasoning?
"My day is going to be ruined, I know it is going to be too hot today."
What is Fortune Telling?
Reframe the Should Statement thought: "I should have done better."
Example: I did my best, there is not more I could have done.
This happens when you make conclusions based on no evidence and predict with certainty.
What is Fortune Telling?
This happens when you do not believe you can make mistakes, that you must prove things to others.
What is Always Being Right?
This happens when you expect that you will be happy once someone changes for you.
What is Fallacy of Change?
"If only he was more quiet, then I would have a better job performance."
What is the Fallacy of Change?
Reframe the Emotional Reasoning thought: "I feel like I am annoying my friends, so I must be."
Example: I can ask my friends for reassurance, or look for the evidence to disprove this.
This happens when you expect something, then feel resentment when it doesn't happen.
What is Heaven's Reward Fallacy?
This happens when you use unfair comparisons and blow things out of proportion.
What is Magnification?
This happens when you cannot see the grey area.
What is All-or-Nothing Thinking?
"I am an annoying person."
What is Labeling?
Reframe the Mind Reading thought: "He thinks I'm crazy, he is going to leave and never come back."
Examples: I can look for evidence against this thought and recognize I may be jumping to conclusions.