All Or Nothing
This is always a problem
We can problem solve
I failed this test, so I am going to fail all of my exams
Just because I failed this one, means I can learn from my mistakes
I made a mistake and now I'm going to get fired!
Take a deep breath, I can learn from my mistakes.
Everyone thinks I'm a loser
I can make friends, I'm pretty awesome
He's a loser
Blaming
I never do anything right
I can try one more time
I can’t trust anyone because everyone always lets me down
I can learn to trust people again.
He hasn't talked to me in ten minutes, he hates me
I wonder what he is feeling, maybe I should ask him?
They're mad at me, what did I do wrong?
He probably isn't mad at me
I should just be better
Should Statements
I always make the wrong choice
Im allowed to make mistakes
I always mess up when I have to speak in public, so I’ll never be good at it
This is a skill I need to learn
If I can't have my electronics, I will never be calm
I can use other coping skills to calm down
They think my ideas are stupid
My ideas are unique and wonderful
I won first place, but I got hurt
Disqualifying the Positive
My way of the highway
Let's work this out together
Everytime I do something new, it becomes a disaster
I can try new things without feeling bad about my mistakes
I had a cough for five minutes, I should see a doctor!
Let's take some deep breaths and wait to see.
He must not want to be my friend anymore
Let's ask him what has been happening and talk it out.
I'm sad so this must be a sad situation
Emotional Reasoning
Everything is falling apart
We can fix this
I got rejected from one job, so I’ll never get hired anywhere
There are plenty of jobs out there
It's raining! My vacation is ruined!
There are still fun things to do on vacation.
They're laughing at me
I lost time because they were mean
Blaming