Thinking Errors 1
When we believe everything is only “good” or “bad”
Black or White Thinking
When we try to make things seem smaller than they really are
Minimizing
This thinking error is used to make people feel sorry for us. Example: “I would not have hurt him if I had not have been hurt myself.”
Victim Stance
I avoid taking responsibility for my actions. Everything is some else's fault.
What is Blaming
What is Blaming
When we believe we know what other people think or feel
Mind Reading/Assuming
A thinking error used so that people won’t expect us to do what is required or expected. This attitude will ultimately lead to disappointment, failure, a loss of control, or a loss of freedom.
"I can’t" attitude
When a person does not think of how their actions influence others, except in the most obvious physical sense. The person has no concept of emotionally hurting others or causing great mental pain.
Lack of empathy/apathy
I know what is really going on, but I act as if I don't so I can avoid the situation at hand.
You must please or impress others to maintain your value as a person or to keep from being devalued as a person.
What is People Pleasing
When a person thinks that everything is “the end of the world”
Catastrophizing
I'm just going to pretend that is not true.
What is denial
You feel like you are being harmed by people that have no intention of harming you.
Victimization
“Pointing the finger” to find an excuse not to solve the problem
Blaming
When we believe everything will work out if we want it enough. "I'm too good to get caught."
What is Magical Thinking
I feel more important or deserving others even though I have done nothing to earn it.
What is Me Me Me/ Entitlement
What is Asking your self questions about the reality of the situation.
What is Fact Checking
I try to make my actions look less wrong by comparing to something worse. I make my actions look insignificant.
What is Minimizing.
When you have a negative thought but you change it to a more positive thought