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Give an example of:
Anger Storm
Acting out of anger and rage in a threatening way. Most of the time this is not real anger, (in fact 99% of the time), but is used to control others, or to use power in a situation. The person has unrealistic, expectations about the people in the world, and controls others and situations by aggression, blaming, isolation, giving up, power plays, anything he/she can do to freeze the situation and make it as he/she wishes.
Give an example of:
Justifying:
To prove to be just, right, or reasonable; finding a way of explaining the reason for things.
To bottle your true feelings and emotions inside and not express them.
What is Stuffing?
Double Jeopardy: Name 3 Thinking Errors Used In This Situation
“I don’t belong in these IOP groups, these other women have way more problems than I do, I never used any illegal drugs (just alcohol and prescriptions from a doctor).”
Minimizing, justification, "I'm unique", etc.
Focusing on other people instead of yourself; “showing that others are worse than me proves that I don’t have a problem”. Or comparing yourself unfavorably with someone else, “That supermodel has a better figure than I do”.
What is Comparing?
You expect disaster; focusing on the worst possible outcome or explanation.
What is Catastrophizing?
Give an example of:
Diverting
Cause (someone or a group) to change course or turn from one direction to another. To distract: My attention was diverted by an argument between motorists. To entertain by distracting the attention from worrisome thoughts or cares; amuse.
To make or look up as being sensational or more exciting; bragging; war stories.
What is Glamorizing
making believe that one agrees with someone else, or pretending, or approving of other ideas to look good when in fact, the person has no intention of going along with this, or does not really agree.
What is Assent?
Double Jeopardy: Name 3 Thinking Errors Used In This Situation
“I only went to AA/NA meetings this week, but it’s not a big deal. I needed to spend time with my kids and I only missed one.”
What is: bargaining, minimizing, justification, excuse making, etc.?
Give an example of:
“I’m Unique”
Believing that you are unique and special, that no one else is like you, and so any information that is applied to other people simply doesn’t affect him/her. The beliefs going along with this are things such as “I know everything and I can handle things alone”. “No one can tell me what to do”.
Give an example of compliance
I do what I’m told no more and no less. Becoming compliant just to get people off my back; “I’ll pretend to do what you want, if you’ll leave me alone!”
Cause (someone or a group) to change course or turn from one direction to another. To distract: My attention was diverted by an argument between motorists. To entertain by distracting the attention from worrisome thoughts or cares; amuse.
What is Diverting?
Give an example of:
Fragmented Personality
“If I like it, okay; if not, to hell with it”. Example: Attending church on Sunday and beating someone up, or rob someone on Tuesday, and then attend church on Wednesday. To this person there is no inconsistency in this behavior. He/she believes he is a good person, and is justified in whatever he does. The criminal acts are seen as things he/she deserves to do, or get, or own, or possess, or control. He/she never considers the inconsistency between these behaviors.
Not being receptive; not being self-critical; makes no disclosures or is selective; lies by omission; and is good at pointing out the faults of others. Thinking that one must keep part of our life secret, to divert issues.
What is Closed Thinking?
To totally give up, be negative, and not work on your problems. Afraid of being put down. Has irrational fears but refuses to admit them. Feeling worthless when held accountable.
What is Zero State?
Give an example of: Denial
Refusal to admit the truth of a statement or charge.
You believe that what you feel must be true --- automatically. If you feel stupid and boring then you must be stupid and boring.
What is Emotional Reasoning?
Double Jeopardy: Name 3 Thinking Errors Used In This Situation
“I don’t want to share my story in front of that girl. She will just judge me, she looks like one of those stuck-up cheerleaders I went to high school with.”
What is stereotyping, generalizing, closed thinking, etc.?