Control & Manipulation
The intentional use of vague or contradictory statements to mislead or frustrate a person asking you a question.
What is Confusion?
The shifting of responsibility for one's actions onto other people, external circumstances, or the system.
What is Blaming?
Focusing only on one's own immediate desires, needs, and feelings without genuine regard for others.
What is Selfish?
A low tolerance for frustration and a strong desire for immediate gratification, often leading to impulsive behavior.
What Is Can't Wait?
A passive or manipulative stance of giving up and claiming an inability to change or cope with circumstances.
What is Helpless?
This error involves assuming you know what another person is thinking without confirming it.
What is Mind Reading?
Downplaying the seriousness, impact, or consequences of an offense or harmful behavior.
What is Minimize?
Believing that being generally helpful, polite, or having a positive outward appearance should exempt one from accountability for specific bad behavior.
What is Mr. Good Guy?
An intense feeling of hostility or displeasure often used as an excuse for poor judgment, intimidation, or loss of control.
What is Anger?
A focus on self-pity and misfortune used to elicit sympathy and distract others from the client's accountability.
What is Poor Me?
The act of tricking, conning, or demeaning someone else to feel smart or superior.
What is Making Fools of Others?
Providing rationalizations or 'good reasons' for one's actions, often making the wrong seem acceptable or necessary.
What is Justifying?
The belief that one is so special or distinct from others that general rules and consequences do not apply to them.
What is Uniqueness?
The belief that one is inherently owed or deserves special treatment, services, or possessions without having to earn them.
What is Entitlement?
Adopting the identity or belief that one is the primary victim of circumstances, the system, or others, thereby excusing one's own harmful behavior.
What is Victim Stance?
A client tries to gain sympathy, excessive approval, or special favors from an authority figure through excessive deference or compliance.
What is Pet Me?
The failure to address or acknowledge critical facts, logical steps, or key emotional elements during problem-solving or reviewing an event.
What is Hop Over?
Tallying up perceived injustices or past good deeds to rationalize current unacceptable behavior or to claim exemption from consequences.
What is Keeping Score?
The unrealistic belief that one's luck will hold out, that consequences will never apply, or that things will simply work out without planning or effort.
What is Super-Optimism?
The deliberate refusal to share genuine thoughts, feelings, or crucial information with treatment providers or others, creating an internal barrier.
What is Closed Channel or Secretiveness?
An individual's attempt to establish dominance, control, or superiority over others in a relationship or interaction.
What is Power Play?
This error involves persistently arguing or challenging established facts, records, or guilt, as if one were trying to prove innocence in a courtroom.
What is Perry Mason?
A sense of accomplishment, self-worth, or positive identity derived from past criminal acts, incarceration, or involvement in a criminal lifestyle.
What is Criminal Pride?
A deep feeling of boredom, emotional numbness, or apathy that is used to justify the need for high-risk, thrill-seeking, or criminal behavior to feel 'alive.'
What is Zero State?
The belief you can take a coworker's stapler because you "need" it,
What is ownership?