Active Listening
What are 2 characteristics of active listening?
1. Looking
2. Not thinking about other things/focusing
3. Not interrupting/raising your hand
4. Listening
You ask your teacher for more tablet time and they say "No". What size is the problem? Why?
Small, because you should only be upset for a few minutes.
What is one thing you should do when you are starting a conversation?
Make a greeting, wave, make eye contact
Johnny lost the game, so he called his friend stupid.
Did he control his emotions? Did his reaction meet the size of the problem? What should he have done?
No, he over reacted.
He had a big reaction to a small problem.
He should have told his friend good game.
Unexpected
The classroom has a guest speaker. The class is sitting quietly, looking and listening to the speaker and raising their hands for questions. Is this active listening?
Yes!
You are sitting in class and you start feeling sick. What size is the problem? Why?
Medium, because you need your teachers help.
How do you keep a conversation going?
Ask questions, make comments and take turns
Annie wasn't invited to play a game with a group of students. How do you think she feels? What could she do?
sad, disappointed
Find something to do alone or with another friend.
Tommy was really close to Jimmy's face. Jimmy asked him to please back up and leave him alone. Tommy didn't listen and kept getting in Jimmy's personal space. Is this expected or unexpected behavior?
Unexpected. We should respect people's request and give them personal space.
Jane is talking to her friend about her weekend plans to go to the beach and Mary asks "What's your favorite pizza place?" Is this active listening? Why or Why not?
No, because she wasn't listening and changed the topic.
You have been practicing your strategy for a game and you lose. What size is the problem? Why?
Small, because a game is for fun and you may win the next time.
What is a conversational question you could ask someone?
How are you? How is your day? What did you do last night? What are you doing this weekend?
Frankie couldn't find his tablet in his backpack when he got to school and he started screaming at the teacher.
Does his reaction meet the size of the problem?
What could he do?
No, he had a big reaction. He could ask the teacher to call home to see if it is there or wait until he got home to look for it.
Jessica dropped all of her papers from her binder on the floor as she was walking to her school van, so Calvin stopped and helped her pick them up?
Expected
What would be an unexpected behavior?
The teacher is teaching the class about the life cycle of butterflies, Eddie is looking at the teacher but thinking about playing Minecraft when he gets home. Is this active listening? Why or Why not?
No, because he is not focused on what the teacher is saying.
You are in a car accident. What size is the problem? Why?
Big, because you will need adults help and medical attention.
What does it mean to 'hog the conversation?'
It means you are talking too much and not letting others have a chance.
Mildred didn't study for her test and she got an "F". She ripped up her paper and screamed. What is her emotion? Did her reaction meet the size of the problem?
She over reacted.
What should she have done?
The teacher is talking and Molly keeps getting out of her seat and walking around the room?
Unexpected
Mandy is listening to the teacher give a lesson on frogs. She wants to know more about how tadpoles turn into frogs. She waits until the teacher is done and raises her hand to ask a question. Is this active listening? Why or Why not?
Yes, because she didn't interrupt and had questions about the lesson.
You are trying to do your school work and you are getting frustrated because you do not understand. What size is the problem? Why?
Medium, because you may need your parent or teacher to help explain what you do not understand.
Why is turn-taking important in a conversation?
It allows everyone a chance to talk and keeps the conversation going.
If a peer is over reacting to a situations and they are screaming, crying, yelling. What should you do?
Try to ignore them, give them space, let the teacher handle it.
What should you not do?
The teacher asks you nicely to work quietly, but you keep getting out of your seat and bothering other students. Is this expected or unexpected behavior? why?
Unexpected. It is the classrooms work time and you are being disruptive.