Topic Avoidance
When topic avoidance occurs, are both parties aware of the information/ topic that is being avoided?
Yes
True or False: Pleasant surprises are the worst and darkest things you can keep as a secret.
FALSE
What are the odds of detecting deception and how common is it for people to lie?
50/50
Very common, 1-2x a day
True or False: Individual motives for secrets are meant to protect the relationship
FALSE
True or False: Topic Avoidance helps to ease a problem away in a relationship until it is solved on its own.
FALSE
What is the ideology of openness?
The idea that “healthy” relationships are built on fully open and transparent communication. Do you believe this is true?
Low Stakes lie Vs. High Stakes lie
“Yea, your outfit looks awesome!” (The outfit was ugly)
“My name is Bob Johnny and my social security number is…” (Stolen Identity)
Low Stakes Lie is Number 1
High Stakes Lie is Number 2
What are the principles of deception?
Functional, Psychological, Social, Physical
BONUS (+100): Which principle of deception is this?
How would you order the motives for deception according to MOST altruistic to LEAST altruistic?
Partner focus motives (most altruistic), Relationship focus motives (less than partner, more than self), Self focus motives (least altruistic)
BONUS (+100): Which motive for deception are the following examples?
What type of lie leads to the most amount of consequences?
High stakes
When does topic avoidance occur the most and why?
Occurs at its highest when intimacy leaves are moderate or stable because you think you already know the person
What is it called when some gets so much anxiety from keeping a secret, that it is then more likely to get leaked or spilled?
Catharsis Effect
Video Links:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=he58fewgYaI
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pFTAX70s0Zs
When I lie it's justified, when you lie it's corrupt
Double standard
Gaining power/control in a relationship is an example of what type of motive?
Self-Focused Motive
What is the effect that occurs when a person thinks so much about a secret that they become increasingly more anxious and have lower self esteem?
Rumination Effect
What are the 3 operating principles of communication privacy management theory?
1. Private information ownership → we own our private information
2. Private information control → creating and employing rules on the dissemination of information https://www.tiktok.com/@jas_moreno22/video/7209754280218316078
3. Private information turbulence → the challenges faced when coordinating privacy boundaries with others
Define what it is called when a person actively tries to not think about a secret, but then thinks about the secret even more.
Thought Suppression and Hyperaccessibility
Name the 5 topics most avoided in relationships
1. Current relationship issues
2. Negative life experiences
3. Dating experiences
4. Sexual experiences
5. Dangerous behaviors
What are the three general types of secrets?
Taboo Secrets, Conventional Secrets, and Rule Violations
What are the five types of deception?
Falsification of the truth, Equivocations, Overstatements, Understatements, Omission
BONUS (+100): Which type of deception are the following examples?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6AXN5McMhhA
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