Simcha
What does Simcha mean?
To be truly happy with what you have and where you are
What does Kibud Av Vaeim Mean?
Honoring the Mother and Father
What does Nekama mean?
Taking Revenge
What does Loshon Hara mean?
Negative speech.
Returning a lost object.
According to Torah and Rabbi Siddur, only who/what can make you happy?
ONLY YOU CAN MAKE YOURSELF HAPPY
TRUE or FALSE
Do we honor our parents just because of what they do for us? (food, clothes, etc)
Bonus: What's the proof in the Torah for this?
No, the Mitzvah is to honor our parents even if they don't do anything for us.
Bonus Answer: In the Midbar, the Yidden had everthing done of them by Hashem (laundry, Mann for food etc) and yet thats when they were commanded to honor their parents, to teach us that we honor them even if they aren't doing things for us.
TRUE or FALSE
We can take revenge on someone who REALLY hurt us?
Bonus: From who can e learn this in the Torah?
No, we must not take revenge on anyone. We must either let it go or talk to the person how it made us feel...
Bonus Answer- we learn this from Yosef who was sold by his own brothers and he forgave them.
Can I say mean things about someone else if they are true?
No, that would still be Loshon Hara.
If you find something on the floor and no one is around can you just keep it?
Ex: a wallet or a ball
No, you must look for a sign to see if you can find the owner.
Does having a lot of things and going to fancy places make one really happy?
while its nice to have things and fun experiences, they dont make someone happy forever, being Happy is a mindset. (like the man in jail who came out and was making jokes)
Give me 3 examples of how we can honor and respect our parents?
Bring them food, not call them by their names, not sit in their chair without permission, talk nicely to them, do things when they ask right away with a HAPPY face, not waking them up when they are sleeping, greet them when they enter a room, stand when they enter a room etc
Why is it SO hard not to take revenge?
Hint: what is the natural way of the world...
Bonus: What are we compared to when we take control of ourselves, stop and breath, and not take revenge?
Because of the way the world works in terms of cause and effect you hurt me an I hurt you back, making things even so its the same/ equal.
We are compared to Malachim (angles)
What if I say mean things about myself, is that ok?
No, that is not ok.
We must speak kindly to ourselves, that will help us be kind to others.
What does word Siman mean?
A sign.
You must look for a sign to see if you can find out who it belongs to so you can do this awesome Mitzvah.
If someone has a hard time in life do they have an excuse to always be sad?
sure they can be sad. But being sad all the time doesn't feel good. So think of something goof in your life and be happy about that!
YES!
Can you say to someone "I won't be like you, I'll be nice and share my ball"? is that ok?
Bonus: what is this called?
No,
that's called holding a grudge or Netira.
What did the Yidden get when they spoke Loshon Hara in the times of the Beis Hamikdosh?
How does this consequence connect to the aveira of Loshon Hara?
Tzoraas.
They spoke harshly about others so they couldnt be around people. Tzoraas meant that they had to separate themselves from people. (go out of town)
Is saying " I lost a can of coke cola" a good enough Siman?
How about I lost LandsEnd school sweater?
No, needs to be more specific and not typical (Ex: The coke can was dented on the bottom or the sweater had a small hole on the sleeve)
Tell me one story we learnt on this topic
man in prison in Russia
Unhappy King
Reb Zusha of Anapoli
In the Aseres Hadibros, on what side is this Mitzvah on, Bein Adam L'Chaveiro (Mitzvos between people) or Bein Adam L'mokom?
Bonus: Why?
Bein Adam L'mokom.
This teaches us that Hashem is partners with our parents in creating us so when we honor our parents, we end us honoring Hashem. :)
What is something that can help someone overcome the urge to take revnege?
(Hint: Who's really in charge of what happens etc..)
We think that everything that happens, the good and bad, is from Hashem and He is in charge. The people are just messengers from Hashem.
He has a plan for all of this.
How many people get hurt from Loshon Hara?
Who are they?
Bonus: What is something you can do if someone is trying to tell you Loshon Hara?
3
the one says it, the one who hears to, and the one its about.
Bonus- Change the topic
If you find something with no Simanim, what can do you do about it so you can fulfill this Mitzvah?
Lost and Found box
Give to store you found it in
Make a post on a wall etc