Terms & Definitions
What is masculinity?
The set of attributes, behaviors, and roles traditionally associated with boys and men.
True or False – Boys can cry.
True. Crying is a healthy emotional response for everyone.
Name a “tough guy” character in a movie or show.
Example: Rambo, Batman, or Vin Diesel’s character in Fast & Furious.
What’s a healthy way to express anger?
Talking about it, writing it out, or using calming techniques like deep breathing.
What percentage of men report feeling lonely sometimes or often?
Over 60%, especially among young adult men.
What is toxic masculinity?
A belief system that promotes dominance, emotional suppression, and aggression in men.
True or False – Being aggressive is the only way to be “manly.”
False. Strength can be shown through kindness, patience, and calm too.
What messages about men do rap videos or media sometimes promote?
That men should be rich, dominant, emotionless, and violent.
How can you support a friend feeling pressure to be “tough”?
Let them know it’s okay to feel and be themselves; validate their experience.
What country ranks highest in gender equality (as of 2024)?
Iceland
What is a gender norm?
Societal expectations about how people should behave based on their gender.
True or False – All guys want to be tough and emotionless.
False. Many men value emotional depth and vulnerability.
What’s wrong with the phrase “boys will be boys”?
It excuses harmful behavior and reinforces gender stereotypes.
What does being “strong” actually mean?
It includes emotional awareness, self-control, and being true to yourself.
At what age are boys commonly told to “man up” or “act like a man”?
As early as 5–7 years old.
What is emotional repression?
The act of holding back or hiding feelings, often due to fear of judgment.
True or False – Toxic masculinity can hurt men too.
True. It contributes to mental health issues and strained relationships.
How do video games often portray masculinity?
As strong, muscular, emotionless heroes who use violence to solve problems.
What’s a good response to “don’t be a girl”?
“There’s nothing wrong with being a girl – that comment puts everyone down.”
When did the term “toxic masculinity” become widely recognized?
In the 1980s and 1990s during men’s movements and academic discourse.
What is patriarchy?
A system where men hold primary power in roles of leadership, privilege, and moral authority.
True or False – Gender roles don’t impact mental health.
False. Rigid roles can increase stress, isolation, and shame.
Name a healthy male role model in media.
Uncle Iroh (Avatar), Mister Rogers, or Spider-Man (Tom Holland’s version).
What’s one way to challenge toxic masculinity at school?
Speak up, create safe spaces, or join groups that promote equity and inclusion.
How does toxic masculinity affect relationships?
It can cause poor communication, emotional distance, and control issues.