Solution to Unhealthy Relationships
Who should you talk to when you're in a unhealthy relationship?
Talk to someone you trust. This can be parents, teachers, consolers, or close friends.
What is a unhealthy relationship?
A relationship that makes you feel unsafe, controlled, or disrespected
What is a healthy relationship?
A relationship where both people feel respected, safe, and valued
What is sexual harassment?
Unwelcome comments, jokes, or gestures of a sexual nature
What is a personal boundary?
Guidelines, rules or limits that a person creates to identify reasonable, safe and permissible ways for other people to behave towards them
Your partner ignores your boundaries repeatedly and makes you feel unsafe. What should you do?
Tell someone you trust, get support, or leave the relationship
One partner lies to or keeps information from the other. One partner steals from the other. Is this a unhealthy relationship?
Yes it is! Dishonesty identified as unhealthy relationship.
Name two qualities found in a healthy relationship
Respect, Communication, Equality, Compromise, Support, Good boundaries, Trust, etc
Can sexual harassment be non verbal?
Yes it can. Non-verbal sexual harassment means behavior that doesn’t use words but still makes someone feel uncomfortable, unsafe, or disrespected.
Ex:
- Making gestures or facial expressions that feel inappropriate
- Showing or sending inappropriate pictures or drawings
- Standing too close or invading someone’s personal space
True or false: everyone has the same personal boundaries
False! A person’s boundaries can vary
What should you do if you see someone in a unhealthy relationship?
Checking in, being empathetic, sharing resources, talking to them, ect..
Name 3 different characteristics of an unhealthy relationship
Controlling, disrespectful ignoring or pushing limits, manipulation, power imbalance, abusive behaviors, damaging your self-esteem or well-being, poor communication, isolation, and a lack of mutual support, etc.
Name one healthy strategy you can use when having conflict with someone.
Taking a time out, "I" messages, Assertive Communication, Talking when you've both cooled off.
If someone if sexually harassing you, should you ignore it? What should you do?
No you shouldn't ignore it. You can say “Stop” or “That makes me uncomfortable.” But if it continues, or if you don’t feel safe speaking up, tell a trusted adult (teacher, counselor, parent, coach).
What are some examples of personal boundaries?
Personal space, physical touch, time/energy, emotional, sexual, money/processions
Which one of these groups is a real support you can go to for help in a unhealthy relationship?
a)AntiViollence4eva
b)SFWAR
c)SAYNO
SFWAR! they are an organization that provides support and help for individuals who are survivors of sexual violence
National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233
Which of the following are signs of an unhealthy relationship?:
1. The person pressures you to spend less time with friends and family
2. They apologize and change their behavior after they hurt you
3. They keep pushing you to do something after you've already said no
1 and 3. The first one shows controlling behavior. The third one shows pushing and not respecting boundaries.
Which is the best communication in a healthy relationship: Passive, Assertive, or Aggressive?
Its Assertive!
Assertive-- expressing your thought and needs clearly, aiming for mutual understanding and compromise
Passive--prioritize the needs, wants, and feeling of others, even at their own expense
Aggressive--Direct, confrontational, and often hostile style that prioritizes one's own needs
Kelly tells a joke that makes John feel uncomfortable. John tells Kelly that they do not want to hear the joke and asks Kelly to stop. Kelly continues telling the joke anyway. Later, Kelly says, “It was just a joke.” Is this seuxal harasment?
Yes it is. Kelly tells an inappropriate joke that makes John feels uncomfortable and clearly says they want it to stop. Saying “It was a joke” does not make it okay because once someone says “stop” or shows they’re uncomfortable, the behavior should stop.
- John is setting a boundary and Kelly is ignoring it
Why is it important to have boundaries and respect the boundaries of others?
Anna and Hans had a disagreement about their wedding. Hans uses the silent treatment and won't talk to her for days. What are some possible solutions?
- stay calm
- set clear boundaries
- stop chasing instead focus on self care
- acknowledge and state your needs
- know when to leave a relationship
Partners share their dreams, fears, and concerns with each other. They tell each other how they feel and share important information. Is this an unhealthy relationship? Why?
No, they are showing honesty and trust, characteristics in a healthy relationship.
Jessie and Mandy met during the first week of school and have been spending a ton of time together after hanging out consistently for three days. Jessie lets Mandy know that he wants to take a break. Mandy tells him she understands and takes the break. Is this a healthy relationship? Why?
Yes it is! They are showing that they have a comfortable pace in their relationship, not rushing things.
Is there only one type of sexual harassment? If there is more name some of them.
Verbal Harassment-- Using words that make someone uncomfortable. (Jokes and uncomfortable comments)
Non-Verbal Harassment--Actions or gestures without words that make someone uncomfortable.
Physical Harassment--Unwanted physical behavior.(touching without permission or invading personal space)
Online Harassment--Harassment that happens through technology.(Sending inappropriate texts or messages, commenting things that make someone uncomfortable)
What are the three types/styles of boundaries?
1. Porous (soft, spongy): lets everyone in
2. Rigid (strict): keeps everyone out
3. Healthy: chooses who to let in and who to keep out