Being Flexible
___________________ thinking is faster and more efficient
Flexible
False: Getting stuck on details can distract us from thinking about our big picture goal.
In the power plan, this is the part of the plan that tells us WHAT we want to accomplish
Our GOAL is WHAT we want to accomplish
True or False: Compromise always means "giving in" to someone else's ideas or preferences
False. Compromise means making a decision with another person
Four (each get a part, take turns, combine ideas, do something different)
Having flexible feelings allow us to cope with _________ and___________.
Quick reward
When my Plan A does not work to accomplish a goal, I need to do this.
Stay flexible &/or Make a Plan B (C, D, E, F.....)
With compromise everyone gets at least a little bit of what they want. We call this a ___ ____ situation.
Win Win
True or False: Clenched teeth and Tense muscles can be signs that you are experiencing "off target" emotions.
True or False: We have some control over how long to be stuck on a strong feeling. Depending on how big or little of a deal something is, we may decide to stay stuck for a longer time or shorter time.
True: If something is a big deal, sometimes we need to be stuck for longer. But if we stay stuck too long, there is a cost.
Quick Reward or Long-term Payoff: Using free time every day after school to watch TV and waiting until the morning of a test to study quickly.
Quick Reward: watching TV is a rewarding break, but can distract us from preparing for bigger picture goals
In the power plan, this is the part of the plan that tells us HOW we will accomplish our goal.
The PLAN tells us HOW we will accomplish our goal.
My friend REALLY cares about going to get pizza when we hang out on Saturday. I was kind of hoping to go get burritos instead, but don't really care be. Should we compromise?
No - in this situation, my friend has a stronger preference than I do so I should be kind and flexible this time.
The "______ brain" controls executive functioning and the "_______ brain" controls feelings and breathing.
Trying to think of a ____ __ is a flexible thinking trick for getting unstuck from feeling frustrated or disappointed.
Plan B
Using the Power Equation gives us power to have more ______ and ______ in our lives
Choice and control
Not checking steps of a plan, missing important details and not having back-up plans can lead to this type of plan
a problem plan
On vacation, my sibling wants to go to the beach (preference level 1) and I want to go to the pool (preference level 1). We have to stick to together. How can we compromise and still have a fun afternoon?
Take turns (go to the beach for an hour and the pool for an hour) OR choose something different (go play mini golf instead)
The power to make more money is an example of a _______ goal because.... (explain your answer)
Realistic goal because you can make a goal and plan to achieve it.
Pla A and Plan B
Being kind to yourself and others
Compromise
Getting Unstuck
These are the three components of the power equation: Be _______, Think about the ______ ________, Making a plan for reaching ___ ________.
Be Flexible, Think about the Big Picture, Make a plan for reaching my goal.
Being an efficient planner requires that you both keep your "eyes on the _____" AND watch the ____.
"prize" (big picture goal) / "clock" (time)
Name and give an example for each of 2 different ways to compromise.
Each gets part (each idea/ activity occurs a little bit/ in part)
Combine ideas (elements of each idea/ activity are included to in a new combined idea/ activity)
Take turns (one idea/ activity is completed one time, the other another time)
Something different (neither of the original ideas/ activities occur, but something else is enjoyed instead)
Name 3 common coping strategies that help most people cope with strong emotions.
-Trigger a happy thought
-Imagine a favorite place/ thing/ memory
-Do a favorite thing
-Use a fidget or other calming movement
-Take a quick break
-Ask for help