Feelings Target
On target or off target:
Your bus is a few minutes late and you are FURIOUS
Off target
What behavior might feeling angry lead to?
yelling
leaving the area
physical aggression
Name a strategy you can use when you are angry at school
-take time
-go on a walk
-deep breathing
-others!
Do you have more choices when you are flexible or stuck?
Flexible
Name a situation you have had an off-target feeling AND what the on-target feeling would have been
any off-target feeling
True or False: Off-target feelings may lead to off-target behavior
true
True or False: All strategies work equally well for all emotions and for all strengths
False
Flexible or stuck:
Your mom was supposed to take you to Wawa after school, but the Wawa on the way home is closed. There isn't time to go anywhere else, so you need to go straight home. You are upset, argue with her, and keep thinking about it all afternoon.
stuck
Does the size of the emotion match the size of the problem?
You have to complete missing work instead of playing football; you feel disappointed and a little annoyed
yes
Complete the feelings chain:
Math work is hard --> ___________ (feeling) -->________ (behavior)
frustrated, anxious, bored
put head down, refuse, leave room, ask for help
Name one strategy (other than taking time or going for a walk) that you can use at school
deep breathing
distraction
talking to a teacher or counselor
grounding
Name a recent situation where you were flexible
any
What does it mean for a feeling to be on target?
The size of the feeling matches the size of the problem
The feeling is helpful
Complete a feelings chain for a situation you have experienced:
_______ (situation or thought) --> ________ (feeling) --> (behavior)
situation or thought --> feeling --> behavior
Name a strategy for when you are feeling anxious or scared
deep breathing
grounding
talking to someone
distraction
What does it mean to be stuck?
cannot change ideas or plans when necessary
What does it mean for a feeling to be off target?
Place these 3 words in order of the feelings chain:
Behavior
Thoughts/Situation
Feelings
thoughts/situation --> feelings --> behavior
Name two strategies: one for when you are just a little sad and one for when you are very sad
any reasonable strategies
e.g., distraction, talking about it
What does it mean to be flexible with our minds?
keep an open mind