Healthy Relationship
What is the difference between caring and carrying in relationships?
Caring involves allowing space for support and remaining present and understanding for loved ones. Carrying means taking responsibility for others' issues onto your shoulders.
Define boundaries
What is one thing you can do for self-care today?
Take a walk, do a skincare routine, call a friend, take a nap, cook a meal, order food, get a treat, etc.
What is a benefit of mindfulness?
Stress reduction, improved mood, improved overall health, supports resilience, reduce psychological distress, etc.
Name your favorite love song!
Any!
What is the difference between reacting and responding?
Responding - well thought through, requires self-awareness, self-regulation, and empathy.
Describe the difference between rigid and porous boundaries?
Rigid: inflexible, no exceptions, doesn't let others in
Porous: easily influenced, overly permissive, people pleasing
What are some barriers to engaging in self-care? Name 2.
It takes time, it can feel selfish, believing you don't need/deserve self-care, prioritizing the needs of others, etc.
What are the "three minds" in DBT/Mindfulness?
Rational mind, emotional mind, wise mind
What is the most popular flower to give for Valentine's?
Roses
Provide 3 examples of "red flags" in relationships.
They aren't open to apologizing, they avoid conflict, they are inconsistent, they do not share their feelings, they exhibit a lack of trust, they ignore needs, don't show appreciation, etc.
List out 3 types of boundaries
What is: psychical, financial, emotional, intellectual, sexual, time, etc.
What is self-compassion?
The practice of quieting our inner critic, replacing it with a voice of support, understanding, and care for ourselves.
How do the "three minds" in DBT/Mindfulness relate to one another?
The emotional mind is fast-reacting, often anxious or reactive. The rational mind is logical, fact-focused, and dependent on past experience. The wise mind is the middle ground between the two, and takes the "input" from the two other minds into consideration.
In which century was the first Valentine given?
1400's
Provide 4 examples of "green flags" in a relationship.
They make you feel safe, they respect boundaries, they take accountability, they acknowledge their faults, they make you feel seen, they maintain their own hobbies and interests, they compromise, etc.
This is a term for relationships where one partner sacrifices their needs for the other, and where their self-worth is tied to what the other thinks of them.
Codependency
What are the two basic steps to self-compassion?
1 - Acknowledge your suffering
2 - Respond with kindness
Give an example of a mindful breathing technique, and explain.
Box breathing, 60-second mindful breathing, 4-7-8 breathing, etc.
What do yellow roses represent?
Friendship
Provide two signs of caring and two signs of carrying in a relationship.
Caring:
You empower the other person to solve their problem, You "walk alongside them.", You allow them to experience their pain without trying to fix it, You care about their outcome.
Carrying:
You feel responsible for the outcome, you're accountable for the solution, you take the lead on problem solving, you feel the need to rescue others from their own pain.
What does the acronym "DEARMAN" represent, and what is it used for?
Describe, Express, Assert, Reinforce, Mindful, Appear, Negotiate
DEARMAN is an interpersonal effectiveness skill used to make requests of others in a respectful and effective way, maintaining the relationship regardless of outcome.
Create a plan for one self-care activity you can do each day for the rest of the week.
Any appropriate response!
What are the 3 "circles of control?" Provide an example for each.
1 - Circle of Concern (politics, COVID, financial obligations, taxes, etc.)
2 - Circle of Influence (health, sleep, friendships and relationships)
3 - Circle of Control (How I react to things, giving myself 8 hours to sleep, moving my body regularly)
What state grows the most red roses in the US?
California