Gaslighting
"Why don't we agree to disagree and move on with our daily plans."
This is not an example of Gaslighting because the partner is understanding that they both disagree and not trying to turn the conversation against them.
"We are a team, and teams do everything together. You shouldn't go out without me."
This is an example of Possessiveness
"Let's stay home and you should tell your friend that we can't go to his party because I feel like he is a bad influence."
This is an example of Isolation being used.
Manipulative tactic where someone makes you question your reality, memories, or feelings.
Gaslighting
“Why would you ever think that? What does that say about you?”
This is gaslighting because they are manipulating their partners thoughts and turning the conversation against them
"Why don't you invite your friends and family over for Thanksgiving."
This is not an example of Possessiveness.
"Keep close to me so that I can protect you from the world hurting you."
This is an example of Isolation
When a partner seeks the other’s attention, actions, and decisions, often stemming from fear of loss and insecurity rather than their love for the other.
Possessiveness
“Why can't you ever take a joke.”
This is an example of Gaslighting because it is controlling their emotions.
"I'm just being protective because I don't want anyone to take advantage of you."
This frames controlling actions as a form of protection. Possessiveness
"Lets go to a party and hang out with all of your friends, and even make some new friends of your own."
This is not an example of Isolation.
Where the abuser slowly severs all emotional ties except the one to him/her and is one of the earliest signs of emotional and/or physical abuse.
Isolation
“We already talked about my boys trip next weekend. Don’t you remember?”
This is an example of Gaslighting.
"I can't wait to see you after you get back from your boy's trip."
This is not an example of possessiveness
"Knowing how to be solitary is central to the art of loving. When we can be alone, we can be with others without using them as a means of escape."
This is an example of a partner using Isolation against their counterpart.
It overwhelms another with excessive affection which creates a feeling of dependence and obligation.
Love Bombing
“If you were paying attention you would know that we already discussed going to my parents house for vacation.
This is an example of Gaslighting.
"I just need to know you're okay. What if something happened to you?"
This is used to justify constant checking in and demanding to know a partner's whereabouts.
Possessiveness
"Two people in love, alone, isolated from the world, that's beautiful."
This is an example of Isolation being used in a relationship.
A partner unilaterally getting to decide that that your relationship with someone else is over
Veto Signals