Dating Warning Signs 1
Dating Warning Signs 2
Dating Warning Signs 3
Violence Risk Factors
Violence in Schools
100

One partner completely rules the relationship and makes the decisions.  This includes “checking up” on the victim, timing a victim when they leave the house, checking the odometer on the car, questioning the victim about where they go. The abuser may control the finances and tries to tell the victim how to dress, who to talk to, and where to go.

What is Controlling Behavior

100

The abuser does not take responsibility for their problems, blaming others (usually the victim) for almost everything (“you made me mad”)

What is Blaming others for their problems and feelings.

100

the abuser has a history of past battering of partners and although they may admit to that, they say their previous partner provoked them to do it.  A batterer will beat any partner they are with if the person is with them long enough for the violence to begin; situational circumstances do not cause a person to have an abusive relationship.

What is Past Battering

100

the state of lacking enough money or resources to meet basic needs like food, shelter, and clothing

What is poverty

100

unwanted remarks or actions that cause a person emotional or physical harm.

What is Harrassment

200

Jealousy is a sign of insecurity and trust, but the abuser will say that it is a sign of love.  The abuser will question the victim about who they talk to, accuse them of flirting or be jealous of time spent with their friends, family or children.  The abuser may refuse to let the victim work or go to school for fear of meeting someone else.  The abuser may call the victim frequently or drop by unexpectedly.  The abuser may accuse the victim of flirting with someone else or having an affair.

What is Extreme Jealousy

200

An abuser is easily insulted and takes everything as a personal attack and blows things out of proportion.

What is Hypersensitivity

200

this includes any threat or physical force meant to control the victim: “I’ll kill you”, “I’ll break your neck”, “If you ever leave, I’ll kill you”.

What are Threats of Violence.

200

the portrayal of harmful acts, typically involving physical or psychological harm, within various forms of media such as television, movies, video games, and online content.

What is media violence

200

use of threats or physical force to intimidate and control another person

What is Bullying

300

The abuser comes on strong at the beginning of the relationship, pressuring for a commitment and claims “Love at first sight” or “You’re the only person I could ever talk to”, or “I never met anyone like you before”.  Often, in the beginning of a relationship, the abuser is very charming and romantic and the love is intense.

What is Quick Involvement

300

The abuser may punish animals brutally or be insensitive to their pain.  They may have unfair expectations of children or tease them until they cry.

What is cruelty to animals or children

300

This behavior is used as a punishment (breaking treasured possessions), but is mostly used to terrorize the victim into submission.  The abuser may break or strike objects near the victim to frighten them.

What is breaking or striking objects

300
the habitual taking of addictive or illegal drugs.


What is Drug Abuse

300

Any kind of bullying that takes place online (i.e., Social media, Texting, Emails)

What is Cyberbullying

400

The abuser comes on strong at the beginning of the relationship, pressuring for a commitment and claims “Love at first sight” or “You’re the only person I could ever talk to”, or “I never met anyone like you before”.  Often, in the beginning of a relationship, the abuser is very charming and romantic and the love is intense.  

What are Unrealistic Expectations.

400

The abuser says cruel and harmful things to their victim, degrades them, curses at them, calls them names, or puts down their accomplishments.  The abuser tells their victims they are stupid, and unable to function without them.  They embarrass and put down the victim in front of others as well.

What is verbal abuse.

400

The abuser may kick, pinch, hit, punch, choke, hold the victim down, restrain them from leaving the room, push, shove, or hold them against a wall.

What is Any Force during and argument

400

Membership in an organization that is involved in illegal activities.

What is Gang Affiliation.

400

Requiring a person to do degrading, risky, or illegal acts in order to join a group. It is common in clubs, athletic teams, and fraternities.  Physical and sexual abuse are also sometimes part of initiations. 

What is Hazing

500

The abuser tries to keep the victim from friends and family by putting down everyone the victim knows, including their family and friends.  They may keep the victim from going to work or school.

What is Isolation.

500

The abuser experiences severe mood swings and the victim may think the abuser has a mental health problem.  One minute they can be charming and sweet and the next minute they become angry and explosive.  Explosiveness and moodiness are typical of people who beat their partners.

What is "Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde" behavior

500

It is a pattern of behavior where one person threatens to use, or actually uses, physical, sexual, verbal or emotional abuse to control his or her dating partner.

What is Dating Violence

500

Easy access to deadly weapons.

What is Availability of Weapons.

500

When conflicts are not resolved, they can get worse, sometimes even resulting in violence.  The process to calmly discuss and agree on a solution that is acceptable to both parties is ....

What is the Negotiation Process.

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