True or False?
True or False?
Dialectics teaches us that there is only one way to view a situation
False, there are often multiple perspectives, some that can even contradict one another
Only noticing the negative side of a person or situation
Disqualifying the Positives
Define Validation
Validation communicates to another person that their feelings, thoughts, and actions make sense and are understandable to you in a particular situation.
Not receiving an instant reward is....
Delaying Gratification
Instead of saying "everyone treats me unfairly", Say "sometimes I'm treated fairly and other time I am treated unfairly". This is an example of...
Thinking Dialectically
True or false?
Consequences are always negative
False, with Positive Reinforcement, consequences can be reinforced a beneficial way
Thinking the worst has happened or will happen without considering other possibilities
Catastrophizing
Give some examples of how you can validate someone using just your body language
Active listening, eye contact, staying focused, nodding your head
Rewards or incentives to increase the likelihood of a behavior
positive reinforcement
What is shaping?
Reinforcing small steps that lead toward an ultimate goal, partializing or simplifying steps
True or False?
Validation DOES NOT equal agreement.
True, you can validate a person's feelings, you don't have to agree with their behavior
Believing you know what someone is thinking about you without verification
Mind Reading
Define Self-Validation
Self-validation involves perceiving your own feelings, thoughts and actions as making sense, accurate and acceptable in a particular situation.
Ignoring a behavior until it stops
Extinction
Define Dialectics
Two feelings or things, even opposing extremes, can be true at once
True or False?
Judging your own emotion is invalidating
True, a feeling is just a feeling, not a fact. Nonjudgement is a core part of Mindfulness
You see yourself as the cause of problems or people's bad feelings that have nothing to do with you
Personalization
Why is it important to validate?
Validation improves relationships. It can decrease conflict and intense emotions. It shows that we are using active listening, we understand, and we are being nonjudgmental.
Removing something irritating to increase positive behaviors (e.g. an alarm clock)
Negative Reinforcement
Mind Reading
(provide an example)
Assuming we know what another is feeling or thinking about us
ex "They came in really upset to work this morning, I bet it's because of me..."
True or False?
The following is an example of a dialectical statement:
"It’s hopeless, I just can't do it"
False, dialectics might look like, "I can do this and it's ok that it's challenging..."
Making mistakes and keep thinking of all the choices you ______ have made
"Should" statements
Define Invalidation
Invalidation communicated (intentionally or not, through words or actions) that another person's feelings, thoughts and actions in a particular situation make no sense, are manipulative, stupid or an overreaction, or not worthy of your time, interest or respect.
Define a reinforcer
Reinforcers are consequences that result in an increase in a behavior. They provide information to a person about what you want them to do.
Personalization
(provide an example)
Taking ownership over problems that you have no control over or influence on
ex- "my parents' divorce was all my fault"