girl fights
YOUR ROOMATE IS VENTING WITH STAFF AND YOU HEARD YOUR NAME... WHAT SHOULD BE YOUR NEXT MOVE?
THIS IS VERY UNDERSTANDABLY TRIGGERING BUT OUR PEERS HAS FEELINGS TOO. THEY HAVE A RIGHT TO EXPRESS THEMSELEVES.
YOU WANT TO RETURN SOMETHING TO WALMART, BUT WALMART CUSTOMER SERVICE FOR WHATEVER REASON WONT ACCEPT YOUR RETURN.
1. ASK FOR A MANAGER
2. ACCEPT THEIR DECISION
3. ATTEMPT AT ANOTHER WALMART IF AVAILABLE
(yes or no)
My roommate is sleeping. Is this a perfect time to clean my half of the room?
NO! THERE IS A WINDOW FOR ACTIVITIES THAT COULD INVOLVE NOISE, AND TURNING ON THE LIGHTS. THIS WILL VARY PERSON TO PERSON. DISCUSS WITH YOUR ROOMMATE BEFORE PERFORMING THE ACTIVITY.
Nicki finds out that Miley said something about her to the press other night so she takes it upon herself to address Miley on stage at an award show
"Miley whats good?!"
did she approach this property?
what would you have done?
Your friend is becoming distant, and isn't socializing like she used to.
1. give her space
2. tell her you're open if she wants to vent
3. only give advice if she approaches you first
YOU NOTICED THAT YOU HAVE BEEN HOARDING DISHING IN YOUR ROOM, AND DECIDED TODAY WOULD BE THE BEST TIME TO BRING THEM DOWN. HOWEVER YOUR ROOMATE JUST FINISHED WASHING DISHES..OPPS
IT CAN BE FUSTERATING FEELING AS IF ITS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY TO CLEAN UP AFTER OTHERS. REMEMBER TO DO YOUR PART IN A SHARED ENVIROMENT
YOU'RE ON A MORNING RUN, AND A GUY STORMS UP TO YOU AND CALLS YOU A "BOEGA BOEGA!" THEN HE STORMS OFF.
1. IGNORE HIM
2. REMIND YOURSELF THAT HIS WORDS HAVE NO MERIT
3. IF POSSIBLE PRAY HE GETS HELP
(YES OR NO)
MY ROOMMATE IS EATTING SOME CHIPS, SINCE I SHARED MY COOKIE WITH HER LAST WEEK ITS ONLY RIGHT THAT SHE SHARES HER TREATS WITH ME?
ONCE SOMETHING IS A GIFT, THE GIVER LOSES OWNERSHIP AS THEY RELIQUISH RIGHTS THERE IS NO OLIGATION WHICH MEANS THERE IS NO ENTITLEDMENT. " IF I GIVE YOU COOKIES NOW, YOU HAVE TO GIVE ME CHIPS IN THE FUTURE" IS A BETTER BOUNDARY SET THEN " HERE TAKE SOME COOKIES." IT MAYBE CLEARER TO SIMPLY SAY "NO"
Cardi B finds out that her friend Saweetie slept with Young Miami's boyfriend.. to clear the air Cardi takes it upon herself to air the drama on the song "2tomarrow"
is this rachet? what could she have done differently?
chile.....
Lately you have been juggling your time around, consistently busy and falling behind on schedule. Along the way you have eaten some ones food. wearing someone else's clothes, and talking over people.
Stop! Slow down! take five minutes to consider how your actions could affect other people.
2. apologize
YOU CAUGHT YOUR ROOMMATE DOVOURING A SALAD FROM THE FRIDGE THAT HAD YOUR NAME ON IT. YOU KNOW SHE SAW IT FOR YOUR NAME WAS WRITTEN LARGE IN COLORFUL MARKERS...SERIOUSLY OMG!
MISTAKES HAPPEN, BUT MORE THAN ONCE APPEARS TO BE INTENTIONAL. REMEMBER TO TAKE SOME SPACE, STAFF IS HERE TO SUPPORT YOU. EVERYONE IS ON THEIR OWN JOURNEY AT SECOND STREET... AND FOOD CAN BE REPLACED. ALWAYS ASK STAFF IF YOU ARE NOT SURE ABOUT FOOD IN THE FRIDGE!
THERE ARE FRIENDS AND FAMILY THAT YOU HAVE NOT PARTED WAYS WITH AND ARE STILL "ABOUT THAT LIFE" THEY KNOW THAT YOU ARE IN TREATMENT SO THEY MAKE UNCOMFORTABLE REFERENCES ABOUT YOU, AND ITS PRETTY CONSISTANT.
RECOVERY WILL SOMETIMES MEAN SEPERATING YOURSELF FROM PEOPLE WHO AREN'T SUPPORTIVE OF YOUR TREATMENT. IT COULD MEAN GAINING NEW FRIENDS. ALTHOUGHT ITS HARD, ITS POSSIBLE AND HANGING AROUND NEGATIVITY IS A CHOICE.
(YES OR NO)
YOU SEE YOUR ROOMATE IN THE OFFICE GETTING MEDICATIONS, TALKING WITH STAFF ETC... IS THIS THE PERFECT TIME TO COME INTO THE OFFICE FOR NEEDS?
NO! lets give the person in the office respect so if the office door is closed or if someone is in the office please wait outside, alternatively you can ask to be included.
Lil Kim feels like Nicki has been biting her style. She took it personally that Nicki didnt pay her homage and instead decided to take her title as the queen of rap.
Lil Kim decides to take her opinions to the breakfast club. should she have waited.
case and point for a time and a place. Lil Kim should have kept quiet for a while. Started a documentary to sell and then painted nicki as the bad guy in the documentary. I still rock with the Black FRIDAY mixtape though.... jk im toxic
Your roommate is heated because someone broke her vase. She can't put a finger on who did it, but you remember going outside to smoke and heard something cash...oh my goodness! it might've been you! what can you do?
1. own up to the guilt.
2. ask for staff support
3. apologize
4. replace the vase (if feasible)
DURING GROUP, YOUR ROOMATE BROUGHT UP A TOPIC ABOUT YOU, THAT YOU REMEMBER ONLY TELLING HER IN CONFIDENCE. ITS OBVIOUS THAT IT WAS MENT TO BE BETWEEN THE BOTH OF YOU.
WE ARE IN A SHARED SPACE AND ON DIFFERENT PATHS OF RECOVERY. ITS NICE TO CONFIDE IN A FRIEND BUT SINCE WE ARE IN TREATMENT WE MUST BE CAUTIOUS OF INFOMATION SPREADING. IF WE SHARE SOMETHING PERSONAL SHOULD IT BE RUMORED? NO..BUT COULD IT BE. YES.
YOU ARE IN YOUR OWN APARTMENT AFTER GRADUATING THIS PROGRAM, AND THIS WOULD MEAN THAT FOR (MAYBE) THE FIRST TIME YOU HAVE TO SPEND YOUR TIME ALONE. YOU BEFRIEND A NEIGHBOR, BUT THAT NEIGHBOR SAYS/ DO THINGS YOUVE IDENIFIED AS A TRIGGER.. IE YI YI!
People in the community are going through their own traumas, and cycles, and even though they aren't in treatment they could be on their own paths of recovery. making friends with neighbors could be 50/50 experience just remember not to make business in the place you rest your head at. it could be a lifesaver !
You see your roommates clothing on top of her bed unfolded, and it's been like that for the past few days. As a favor (unagreed upon) to her, while she is out in the community you decide to "clean and organize" her space. is this appropriate?
no! your heart may be in the right place but this is not the right time. while in a shared space not at anytime, one should not be handling others property, doing favors, purchasing gifts, or earning affection. we can support each other emotionally, but financially or physically could result in unwanted drama, or unwelcomed emotions.
Candace Owens gets a comment on her video debating the vaccine. The influencer Serena commented stating that her comments are misleading. To which Candace responds with "you know that you are trans? She then presents her audience with misleading fact about trans women." Who was out of pocket?
when in an argument debate the topic not the person. Serena is both aware of her gender identity and her appearance which does not have anything to do with the vaccine. keep your opinions about the person brief. because once you start attempting to insult the person the point of the debate is lost, gaining sympathy jumps out the window, and there is no resolution
You wanna use an item in the house (TV/PHONE/BIKE/ computer) but valencia is always hogging it up!
what can you do?
1. ask staff for help.
2. politely ask her to give you a turn.
3. set up a schedule with staff's help so that everyone gets a chance at the item
YOU'RE BEGAN TO HEAR THINGS BEING SAID ABOUT YOU ALLEGEDLY STAFF IS IN ON THE GOSSIP TO. SO YOU BEGAN TO INVESTIGATE THE SOURCE OF THE GOSSIP BECAUSE IT MAKES YOU FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE.
PROGRAM MANGER ELIZABETH, IS A NEUTRAL SOURCE TO BRING ANY ISSUES TO BECAUSE SHE IS LESS LIKELY TO PICK SIDES, OR APPEAR BIAS. IF TRUST IS VIOLATED IN THIS SPACE, IT MUST BE ADDRESSED, AND CANNOT GO IGNORED!! AND THATS ON PERIOD
in the workplace, you find yourself getting attached to your coworker. you trust him because he is always so helpful and comes across as a "good guy". When suddenly he ask your for a date. whats a healthy response?
Relationships and work place has been proven a disaster. the true test of character of a person is to see how they respond when angry. Imagine the day you break up, or enter an argument, how can this hurt the work environment?
you overheard Valencia talking about Alyssa to Kayla and Elizabeth. You didnt hear the beginning of the conversation but you did hear Kayla say "and she drives that car everyday!" You; (being an active member of the scooby gang) know they are talking about alyssa being tardy to work! You like Alyssa so you take it upon yourself to tell Alyssa about what you heard!
Not everyone is going to get along with others, and we will get on each others nervous more often than not. However when people have beef to include yourself in the drama, and instigate only brings unwanted attention to yourself. Let people work out their issues with each other! respect others enough to give them space.
Selena Gomez receives a kidney transplant from her friend Francis. Since then she has released a documentary centered around her mental health and states that "taylor is her only friend in the industry". Francis decides to comment on a post on twitter which highlights this comment. She states "weird". Did she handle this appropriately?
if YOUR friend is in an emotional period of her life, there is a time, place, and way to address a misunderstanding than taking it public first.
what would you have done?
YOU have a new roommate/ staff member but this gurl is annnnnnnooooooooyyyyyyyyinnnnngggggg.... you have tried to be positive with her but there are certain things about her that you dont agree with.
how can you cope
1. keep your distance
2. spend time in the common areas of the house.
3. bring up anything serious to staff to help address
which could look like: disrupting sleep, playing loud music without headphones, stealing, engaging in harmful activities