Self-deception
Acronym for DENIAL
What is "Don't Even Know I am Lying' (to Myself)
The way we view and think about ourselves. We place a value or measure of worth to ourselves or aspects of ourselves.
What is self-esteem?
According to Brene Brown's video the power of vulnerability she states "beneath most feelings of shame is the core belief"........
"I am not good enough"
"I'm fine"
"I got this"
"I'll only use on the weekends"
are examples of what?
The lies we tell ourselves
Self-deception is a conscious process
False
It is not a conscious process
Complete the sentence
No addiction without lies.....
No recovery without truth
Having a generally negative overall opinion of oneself.
What is low self-esteem?
In the video The Power of Vulnerability, Brene Brown states "as humans we are hard wired for........"
What is connection
One slide in the self-deception class showed a cartoon drawing of two line ups, what were the names of these line ups?
Unpleasant truths
Comforting lies
All people lie especially to themselves, this does not excuse the behavior, its a reality.
True
Name the 3 components we use in self talk to justify using
Justification
Rationalization
Minimization
Who was the TED Talks speaker that most of you did not like
Who is Kristen Neff?
The problem with vulnerability is
HINT (think of when you meet someone for the first time)
It shows courage in you but weakness in me
Studies have shown that for people who practice self compassion tend to have less mental health problems such as.....
Depression, anxiety and stress
Self-deception is the surest way to self-destruction
True
Name 3 of the 5 questions we did as a group activity at the beginning of the class on self-deception
What is honesty?
What situations would tempt you to be dishonest?
How would being dishonest impact your recovery?
What steps can you take to keep honesty a priority in your recovery?
Make a list of things you did to hide your addiction
The attitude that involves a certain set of feelings, thoughts, motives, desires, and behaviors that can be directed toward any living thing (ourselves, another person, groups or people, animals)
What is compassion?
Complete this sentence
If you numb the painful feelings such as_____,_____,______. You also lose the positive feelings of ______,________,________.
Shame, Anger and Fear
Joy, Gratitude and Happiness
The opposite of self critical is....
Self-compassion
A negative life experience does not contribute to a low self-esteem.
False
How do we build trust in ourselves?
Requires paying attention to our thoughts and statements.
Why is self-compassion so important?
It is strongly linked to our mental health and well-being.
Three things we discussed in group that will help you while learning to be vulnerable and opening up
What is
1. Feeling, showing and sharing emotions doesn't make you weak
2. It's OK to not be OK
3. People aren't as judgmental as you might think (if you surround yourself with people who support you they won't judge you for showing emotion)
What hormone is released in the body (stress hormone) when we continually self criticize?
Cortisol
Daily Double 500 points
for both groups (as a group write down your answers) you have 60 seconds to come up with an answer;
Building trust within in ourselves requires paying attention to our thoughts and statements. Gradually we come to recognize two things:
The lies our addiction tells and
the lies we tell ourselves