Anger Issues
T/F Anger is a primary emotion
False
What is step 3?
Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
________ are premeditated resentments
(unrealistic) Expectations
________ is a natural emotional response resulting from the loss of something or someone who we had an emotional attachment to. A process to be worked.
Grief
What are 2 things that cause discouragement?
bad habits, stinking thinking, a habit of failure, loser, co-dependency, helping others and neglecting self
Three times we get angry: not getting what we want, losing what we think we have, getting found out/caught. These are ______ based
Fear
Name 3 frothy emotional appeals
mom, dad, wife, girlfriend, kids, family, friends
What page in the Big Book can you find help with your resentments?
Pg. 552
Name 3 healthy ways to vent/express your grief
talk about it, write about it, do activities, vent emotionally, get involved, faith/hope/love, affirming reality, ask for help
What is the absolute answer to discouragement?
having a positive program
What is the "killer venom" that hits the brain's autonomic nervous system at a cellular level, lasting up to 13 hours when we get angry
Cortisol
What are the essentials of recovery?
Willingness, honesty, open-mindedness
It fixates us at the point of pain, it isolates us, it drives us to obsess about it. What is it?
unresolved anger or resentment
Name 3 expected symptoms of grief
numb, disbelief, anger (God, unfair, others, self, the deceased), guilt, anxiety, fear, despair, confusion
3 things you will find in a positive program.
having tools and using them; step 11 work; get and stay plugged in; positive affirmations; positive imagery
Describe the 3 types of anger
passive-withdrawn, doormat, pity party, victim; aggressive-overbearing, rude, intimidation, controlling; passive-aggressive-sarcastic, cynical, manipulative, gossiping, it's ok-but getting even
____ _____ runs on faith, God and recovery centered, is open-minded, strengthens love and relationships, blocks addiction, requires surrender, connects with God, restores sanity, makes life on life's terms acceptable.
God's will
Anger is an emotional response to a real or perceived _______
Name the 3 types of grief
acute; complicated; integrated
We don't see things the way they are, we see things the way _____ are.
We
Name 5 anger diffusers
breathing, journal, relaxation, mindfulness, time-out, talking about/owning your feelings, professional help, spiritual guidance
Identify 5 characteristics of self-will
greedy, anger/resentful, controlling, hateful, uncaring, irresponsible, ungrateful, dishonest, unfaithful, procrastinating, disrespectful, intolerant, arrogant, denial, pessimistic
Identify the 3 steps to resolving resentment.
1-identify the injustice, feel the hurt/pain, own it; 2-use daily positive affirmations (mirror work); 3-let it go, give it to God
What are the 6 stages of grief according to Elizabeth Kubler-Ross and David Kessler?
Denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance, finding meaning
Journaling, reframing setbacks as learning experiences, self-care, completing tasks, finding a friend, and draining the drama are all ways to cope with ______
discouragement