FAST Skills (Self-Respect Effectiveness)
This letter in FAST reminds you to be fair to yourself and to the other person.
What is F?
This painful emotion makes someone believe “I am bad.”
What is shame?
The way we think about ourselves and the value we place on ourselves is called this.
What is self-esteem?
In GIVE skills, the “G” stands for this, reminding you to be kind and respectful.
What is Gentle?
This U.S. state is famous for its potatoes.
What is Idaho?
This part of FAST means you shouldn’t over-apologize for having an opinion or making a request.
What is (No) Apologies?
This emotion comes from recognizing you did something wrong and feeling regret about it.
What is guilt?
Ignoring positive things and focusing only on the negative is an example of this cognitive distortion and can negatively impact your self-esteem.
What is disqualifying the positives?
In GIVE skills, “Validate” means to do this with the other person’s feelings and thoughts.
What is show understanding?
This organ in the human body pumps blood.
What is the heart?
This part of FAST reminds you not to sell out your personal values or integrity.
What is Stick to values?
The first step in building healthy boundaries is identifying these.
What are your boundaries?
A person who is very hard on themselves and doubts their abilities may be struggling with this.
What is low self-esteem?
In DEAR MAN, the “D” stands for this, meaning to clearly state the situation and facts.
What is Describe?
This bird is the national symbol of the United States.
What is the bald eagle?
This letter in FAST means you should be truthful and not exaggerate, lie, or act helpless.
What is T?
Saying, “I can only talk for 20 minutes before I need to take care of other things,” is an example of setting this.
What is a boundary?
One way to improve self-esteem is to consider these about yourself.
What are positive qualities?
In DEAR MAN, the “A” stands for this, which means to clearly ask for what you want or say no.
What is Assert?
This board game asks players to solve the mystery of “who did it, with what, and where.”
What is Clue?
Saying “I don’t need to apologize for asking for help” shows you are using this FAST guideline.
What is (No) Apologies?
When someone uses FAST skills to set a limit on how they are treated, they are doing this important relationship task.
What is boundary building?
Challenging negative thoughts such as “I am not good enough” can help improve this.
What is self-esteem?
In DEAR MAN, the “N” stands for this, which means being willing to compromise to solve a problem.
What is Negotiate?
This is the smallest country in the world by both size and population.
What is Vatican City?