Have you been listening?
People with insecure attachment can become more secure by....
...adopting new beliefs and behaviors.
What does Contributing ask you to do?
Do something that allows you to focus on another person.
• Ask a friend about their day. • Make a gift for a loved one. • Volunteer. • Send a thoughtful card.
When are attachment styles created?
Attachment styles are established in childhood and strongly impact romantic relationships throughout life.
The wise mind refers to...
a balance between the reasonable and emotional halves
T/F: Most people have a primary attachment style, but it’s common to have some traits from other styles.
True
The E part of ACCEPTS stands for what? And please give an example
Emotions
Sad? Watch a happy movie
Anxious? practice deep breathing
Angry? Go for a walk
What tells you someone has an Avoidant attachment style?
overly rigid, guarded, and distant
uncomfortable with emotions and conflict
difficulty expressing needs and wants
Values are...
the beliefs that define what is most important to you. They guide each of your choices in life.
Have each person tell me 1 "identity" you have.
EX: parent, survivor, dog owner, chronic illness sufferer, and kind person
Give 2 examples of sensations you can create
Cold shower, holding ice, drinking something hot, eating something spicy/sour.
What tells you someone has Anxious-Avoidant attachment?
tendency toward emotional extremes
difficulty maintaining healthy boundaries
prone to high-conflict relationships
Alternates between anxious and avoidant attachment. Simultaneously desires and distrusts intimacy with their partner, resulting in contradictory, inconsistent behavior.
The emotional mind is used when...
feelings control a person’s thoughts and behavior. They might act impulsively with little regard for consequences.
The acronym ACCEPTS outlines seven techniques for..
distracting yourself from distressing emotions until they pass.
Thoughts in ACCEPTS asks you to what? And please give an example.
Use a mental strategy or an activity to shift your thoughts to something neutral.
• Starting with the letter “A,” name objects around you that start with each letter of the alphabet. • Count a specific object around you (e.g. bricks, trees…) • Sing a song out loud or recite it in your head.
What tells you someone has a Secure attachment style?
committed to relationship, but independent
attentive, affectionate, and accepting
able to handle and resolve conflict
Please have everyone on your team name 1 value they hold (please do not repeat).
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A person uses their reasonable mind when
they approach a situation intellectually
What does ACCEPTS stand for?
Activities
Contributing
Comparisons
Emotions
Pushing away
Thoughts
Sensations
What are the 4 attachment styles
Secure, Anxious, Avoidant, Anxious-Avoidant(Disorganized)
The mind has 3 states, the....
reasonable mind, the emotional mind, and the wise mind