Uncomfortable vs. Unsafe
There is a present risk to my wellbeing physically or emotionally means something is:
What is unsafe?
1. Spread your fingers wide
2. Inhale through your nose and widen your eyes
3. Exhale, stick out your tongue and make a HA sound
what exercise does this describe?
What is Lion's breath?
Seeing things in extreme, binary terms without acknowledging any middle ground. Situations are viewed as either completely good or completely bad.
All-or-Nothing Thinking (Black-and-White Thinking)
When indirectly negative feelings are expressed instead of talking about it.
What is passive-aggression?
When making hard choices, there is no (blank) (blank).
What is best alternative?
When our _____ ______ is struggling to regulate and accurately assess for danger, it will often send signals that attempt to prompt certain actions
One drawback from ____ breath is that not everyone can curl their tongue.
What is sitali breath?
Focusing solely on the negative aspects of a situation while ignoring or dismissing the positive aspects.
Mental filtering
Showering someone with excessive affection, attention, and praise to win their trust and loyalty, only to later manipulate or exploit them.
Love bombing
People who don't use their normative power in decision making, or in life. These kinds of people tend to allow the world to write the stories of their lives.
Drifters
I don’t like what is going on, I feel displeased or challenged by something that is happening, I fear that something bad may happen means you are _________.
What is uncomfortable?
1. close your eyes
2. place your fingers on your tragus cartilage
3. as you breath out, keep your mouth closed and release a humming sound.
what exercise does this describe?
What is humming bee breath?
Making broad interpretations from a single or few events. Assuming that one negative experience will always happen in the future.
Overgeneralization
When a person makes the victim doubt their understanding of reality.
Small choices become (blank)
(blank) become (blank),
and (blank) become our way of life.
Small choices become ACTIONS
ACTIONS become HABITS,
and HABITS become our way of life.
Connecting with our ____ ____ is something we can do when our nervous systems are sending us the signal that something is unsafe and we need to determine if it is actually unsafe or we are uncomfortable.
What is wise mind?
This theory emphasizes the role of the vagus nerve, a key component of the parasympathetic nervous system, in regulating responses.
What is Polyvagal Theory?
Expecting the worst possible outcome or viewing a situation as far worse than it actually is (magnification). Alternatively, minimizing the importance of positive events.
Withholding communication and affection to punish the victim or to assert control. The manipulator may ignore the victim’s attempts to communicate until they acquiesce to the manipulator’s demands.
silent treatment or stonewalling
"Gusto", purpose, or a sense of self one has to exist in their lives, take up space, and actively make the decisions to progress them towards their ideal future is called what?
Normative Power or Personal Agency
The distress tolerance method, IMPROVE, stands for what?
I- Imagery
M-Meaning
P-Prayer
R-Relaxation
O-One thing in the moment
V-Vacation
E-Encouragement
How many breathing techniques did you go over in this group? (you were given a worksheet)
13
Blaming yourself for events outside your control or assuming that unrelated events are connected to you.
Personalization
When someone misuses emotional connection to manipulate others.
What is emotional abuse?
Instead of thinking of choices as best, worst, or equal to each other, we need to think about our choices being (blank) (blank) (blank).
On a par