Forgiveness
Correctly name the order of the 4 phases of forgiveness
uncovering, decision, work, deepening
recognition or affirmation that a person or their feelings or opinions are valid or worthwhile is called
Validation
Horses are ----- animals. This means that group dynamics and changes in those dynamics effect their mood and behavior.
Herd
When the criteria that someone sets to be pleased is changed continuously
Moving goalposts
An overwhelming feeling (that isn't chosen) that leads to secrecy, lies, and unwanted feelings
Shame
During the _______ phase, you will start to understand the offender in a new way, which will allow positive feelings toward the offender and yourself.
work
T/F: external validation is bad in all forms and we should only rely on internal validation
False
Romeo was ------ motivated and Cheyenne was ----- motivated.
attention/praise
food
Ignoring or refusing to engage as a means of manipulation and control
Stonewalling/ignoring
When you want/need to print something in school, you must: (there are three steps)
Tell us/show us what you intend to print
Ask someone to get it for you
During this phase of forgiveness, you will further decrease the negative emotions associated with the injustice. You may find meaning in the experiences, and recognize ways in which you have grown as a result
deepening
-------validation tends to be based on our beliefs, opinions, and values and guides us toward a healthier sense of self
Internal
Asserting ------ when working with a horse is important in order to get them to cooperate with and trust you.
Dominance
When a person deflects/changes the topic of conversation to avoid addressing behavior or uncomfortable emotions
Changing the subject
a deserved feeling of remorse for doing something wrong that you know you could have done differently that might've led to a better outcome
guilt
During which phase (number) of forgiveness, will you improve your understanding of the injustice, and how it has impacted your life?
1st phase
Striving to get good grades for praise/acknowledgement from others is -------
external validation of worth
------- is a horse training technique in which a horse is drawn/pushed out into a space and then it is tested on its ability to come back to its owner/trainer.
The join up
After setting boundaries with a peer, the peer continues to violate the boundaries in place. As a result of this, you choose to communicate that you will not be spending time with them anymore. The peer talks about how they are used to people leaving them and that they shouldn't be surprised that you don't want to be around them now
emotional abuse
Andy is feeling an emotion after an argument with his brother. The argument started because Andy promised he would change a previous behavior, and then he turned right around and did it again. Andy's brother expressed disappointment and Andy became defensive and shouted at his brother before shutting down completely. What emotion might Andy be feeling after this interaction?
Guilt
During the _______ phase, you gain a deeper understanding of what forgiveness is, and make the decision to choose or reject forgiveness.
Decision
Worth
Name this horse:
Darker coat
independent
a leader amongst the pack
herd-minded
Honey
lying/denial
What were the rules discussed at the beginning of open process? (there are 5)
No interrupting
No trauma olympics
Can talk about red light topics
Don't have to raise your hand
What's said in open process stays in open process