Reasons to Change
What is the word for wanting something and not wanting it at the same time?
Ambivalence. Mixed feelings are normal at every stage of change.
Which famous Halloween movie features the line “Do you like scary movies?
Scream
True or false: some emotions are good and some emotions are bad.
False. Emotions themselves are neither good nor bad.
What is a question people who emotionally monitor tend to ask a lot?
“Are you okay?” or “Are you mad at me?”
How many meals a day should you aim for?
Three meals at fairly regular times, plus water throughout the day.
One of these can be finished, like “get my licence back.” The other is a direction you keep moving in, like a compass. Which is which?
A goal can be finished. A value is a direction you keep moving in.
In The Nightmare Before Christmas, what is the name of the Pumpkin King who rules Halloween?
Jack Skellington
Is it a good idea to push down or hide our emotions? Why or why not?
No. Pushing emotions down usually makes things worse.
True or false: emotional monitoring is a character flaw.
False. It’s a way your body learned to protect you, often from being around people whose moods were hard to predict. Give yourself grace.
How many hours of sleep do most adults need each night?
At least 7 hours.
Why do people keep using even when it’s causing problems?
Using did something for them, like helping them relax, sleep, socialize or cope. The good feeling comes fast, and the costs come later and are easier to forget.
In what Stephen King book/movie does a family move into a haunted hotel?
The Shining
True or false: our emotions always give us accurate information about a situation.
False. Emotions can be signals to check things out, but they may not be accurate. Treating emotions as facts leads to difficulties.
Name one way emotional monitoring can affect you or your relationships.
Any of these: it’s exhausting, it raises anxiety, it can push people away or make them feel smothered, and you don’t get to show up as yourself.
Does movement have to be a hard workout? Name 2 kinds of movement that count.
No. Walking, stretching, chores, dancing and light exercise all count.
Name 3 types or examples of thoughts that keep us stuck.
Minimizing (“It’s not that bad”), Comparing (“I’m not as bad as…”), Blaming (“I only use because of…”), Delaying (“I’ll stop after…”), Controlling (“Next time I’ll keep it to just a little”).
Which Irish band has a hit song named “Zombie”?
The Cranberries
Name the three things emotions do for us.
They motivate us for action, communicate to others, and communicate to ourselves.
Name one way to calm yourself down without needing someone else to tell you everything’s okay.
Deep breathing, 5-4-3-2-1 grounding, mindfulness, journaling, or a calming meditation.
In recovery, why is it risky to go a long time without eating?
Hunger can be confused with cravings, and poor eating habits can increase relapse risk.
When a craving hits, it mostly reminds you of the good times. What can you do to see the whole picture before deciding?
Think about what using has cost you and what you’re working toward. Your values and your reminder card can help.
(DAILY DOUBLE) Which actor was the basis for Michael Myers’s mask in Halloween?
William Shatner (as Captain Kirk)
What is the difference between guilt and shame?
Guilt is about a specific action that went against our values, and it pushes us to repair it. Shame is about who we are, or behaviour our community disapproves of, and it pushes us to hide.
What’s the difference between caring about how someone feels and emotional monitoring?
Caring (empathy) means noticing their feelings so you can support them, and you stay steady. Emotional monitoring means watching their feelings to keep yourself safe, and it costs you your own feelings.
True or false: sitting next to a sunny window helps your body make vitamin D.
False. The UVB rays your body needs don’t pass through glass, so you need time outdoors in daylight.