DV
When one person uses controlling behaviors to establish power over another person in a relationship.
What is Domestic Violence?
Hitting, punching, kicking, spitting etc.
What is physical abuse?
Domestic violence is a personal problem between partners.
MYTH
Domestic Violence affects everyone in the family. It is estimated that 3.3 million children in the US witness domestic violence every year.
Unseen to others, and sometimes even the victim, this makes it hard to leave.
What are Coercive control or controlling behaviors?
True or False?
Children who have witnessed domestic violence might feel guilty and that it is their fault.
True!
BUT! Domestic violence is never a child’s fault. The person who chose to be violent is the one at fault
These statements are examples of "Why do you stay?", "What did you do to start it?", "Why do you put up with it?"
What is Victim Blaming
Name calling, putting them down, ridiculing,
What is verbal abuse?
There are many types of domestic violence.
FACT
Abusive actions against another person can be verbal, emotional, sexual, spiritual, financial and physical.
Lack of this keeps many trapped in an abusive relationship.
What is personal financial security?
True or False?
You can tell by looking at someone if they will be violent.
False!
You can’t tell by looking at someone if they will be violent. BUT, if a person has hit once in a relationship, they are likely to do it again.
Abusers maintain good behaviour in front of others.
How do abusers remain hidden in plain sight?
Most batterers do not use violence in other non-intimate relationships to resolve conflict.
Limited or no access to money, or financial decisions.
What is financial/economic abuse?
Young children will not remember the violence they have witnessed.
Myth
Children do not forget what they have witnessed. Young children demonstrate a remarkable capacity for recalling traumatic events.
Fear of being able to protect these if you leave
What are children of the relationship?
True or False?
Domestic violence is experienced as often in men than it is in women?
FALSE
1 in 3 women in Spokane and 1 in 10 men will experience DV.
I believe you.
What to say when someone discloses abuse.
Crazy making, gaslighting, manipulating, lying....
What is emotional abuse?
Substance use is one reason someone abuses.
MYTH
Substance use increases the risk of physical violence, but coercive control is often already a part of the relationship dynamic.
When this is shared, the risk of controlling and abusive behavior in a relationship increases 10x.
What are Digital passwords
True or False?
Domestic violence is a “loss of control.”
False!
Violent behavior is a choice. Perpetrators use it to control their victims. Domestic violence is about abusers using their control, not losing their control.
Race, religion, age, orientation, economic level, education.....
Who is anyone can experience domestic violence.
Quoting scripture or tradition to induce guilt in another person.
What is spiritual or cultural abuse.
Domestic violence is common.
FACT
•One in four American women (1 in 3 in Spokane) report being physically assaulted and/or sexually assaulted by a current or former spouse, cohabiting partner, or date at some time in their life.
•Every day in the US three women are murdered by a husband or boyfriend
The primary reason given when asked why they stay in an abusive relationship.
What are threats of suicide and/or self-harm by the abuser.
True or False?
Witnessing domestic violence means only seeing it.
Witnessing can mean SEEING violence, but it also means HEARING threats or fighting noises from another room. It can mean that children OBSERVE the aftermath of physical abuse such as blood, bruises, tears, torn clothing, and broken items.