Communicating when upset
Is it ok to yell at someone when you are mad?
No
Should you hug a stranger
No
Is it important to talk about things that upset you?
Yes
Do you need permission to go into another person's private bubble or space?
Yes
examples:
Talk to a friend
cry
nap
exercise
cuddle with a pet
Can you ever date a staff member or therapist who works with you?
No - Never!
If someone talks to you disrespectfully, do you think they would be a good friend?
No, because if they talk to you disrespectfully, they will probably treat you disrespectfully.
When we say "I love you" to people, does it always mean the same thing?
No, we can love our family different from our friends and different from a romantic partner.
Name the feeling you might feel if you are comparing yourself to someone else's achievements, possessions or qualities
Envy or Jealousy
Name places where you might know people who are acquaintances to you?
Stores
Restaurants
Special Olympics - people from other teams
Name 2 red flags that a relationship might be unhealthy or abusive
If someone is inpatient with people
If someone yells at others over small things
If someone hits you or calls you names
If they try to keep you from your friends and family
If they are jealous when you spend time with others
What are some "friendship tasks" that you can do to help build healthy relationships?
Give compliments
Call and check on someone you haven't talked to in a while
Send a letter or drawing
Learn something new about someone you already know
Plan a get together either in person or on zoom/Facetime.
Can being uncomfortable change your mood and how you treat people or act?
Yes. It can come across that you are mad, or sad, or angry at someone when it really isn't about them.
Where are good places to meet someone that you do not know very well for a get together or date?
Public places like restaurants, coffee shops, the mall, movies etc. Always let staff or family know before.
Name 2 characteristics of a healthy relationship
They treat you well.
You can both talk about your feelings when you are upset.
You are both considerate of each other's time.
You support each other's goals.
You encourage each other to spend time with other friends.
Give an example of how our relationships change us...
Ex: Good relationships help us grow and can help us improve ourselves.
Bad relationships, like bad teachers telling us we are stupid, can have a negative impact on how we think of ourselves.
What are the phrases we teach you to use when you are talking to someone you are mad at?
Hint: First part is "When you..."
When you...
I feel...
Because...
What I would like is...
How long should you wait before telling someone you love them? What indicators should you look for?
You should know them well enough to trust them.
This typically takes at least few months.
What are two things you can do when you are feeling frustrated?
Examples:
Take a break
Identify the source of frustration
Breathe deeply and look at the situation again
Try something different - another way to achieve your goal.
What can you do if someone wants to be your boyfriend or girlfriend and you do not think of them like that or are not ready for that kind of relationship?
It is important to talk honestly with them so you do not lead them on and you can both have the same expectations.