Your Toolbox (Ch. 9)
Name a tool in your tool box...
What is -Offer a Redo -Say yes - Be approachable - Matching -Share Power/Give choices -Compromises -Celebrate your child's needs?
The book is based on this acronym, TBRI, which can be incorporated into everyday life to promoting healing of children from hard places.
What is Trust Based Relational Interventions?
TBRI aims to meet the needs of the children in three (3) ways: Empowering, training and correcting.
What is false?
Empowering
Connecting
Correcting
Since the Jeopardy show premiered in 1984, the most common correct response overall was...
“What is China?”
- Daily Double -
According to the book, this leads to lack of self-discipline, patience, and hope.
What is lack of sleep?
page 160
This tool in your tool box can create motor memory...
What is a redo?
page 151
If a child needs ____________and I give him ________, I harm his ability to trust me.
If a child needs ___________ and I have him ________. I harm his ability to grow.
What is
If a child needs nurture and I give him structure, I harm his ability to trust me.
If a child needs structure and I have him nurture. I harm his ability to grow. Use both hand in hand!
When a child cries and no one comes, a child's brain chemistry is dramatically altered.
What is true?
Page 36
Name 2 strategies the book mentions for nurturing older youth...
What is driving them to appointments, staying near when they have hard meetings, teaching them life skills, meet physical needs when sick or injured?
The Child Traumatic Stress Network defines this as "the exhaustion and negative emotional, physiological, biological and cognitive effects resulting from the cumulative effects of empathetic engagement with and secondary exposure to, trauma."
What is compassion fatigue?
- Daily Double -
According to chapter 9, a crucial moment in connecting parenting is seeing a child "being mad" for what it really is...
What is, "my child is sad?"
Short, simple phrases such as "Use your words," "Would you like a compromise?" and "Are you asking or telling?" are called....
What is a script?
Chapter 3
Developing trust and felt safety is not as important as respect and a child acting their chronological age.
What is false?
- Daily Double -
The 4 skills for meaningful relationships...
1. Give care - give care without resentment/discomfort
2. Receive care - to receive care from others
3. Be autonomous - (becoming independent)
4. Negotiate needs - identify and negotiate your needs
This is simply the practice of being aware, and can take different forms which include taking a walk in the grass and noticing the temperature and texture on your feet, practicing being aware of your breathing, etc...
What is mindfulness?
pg. 164
In chapter 9, we encouraged to say this whenever you can, and that the "power" of saying this works both ways (a parent telling a child this and a child telling a parent this)...
What is YES?!?
pgs. 143-144
This is an expression of an unmet need...
What is misbehavior?
pg. 102
Scripts are helpful because they are short and easy to understand, provide quick guidance and reminders for children (and caregivers) and build safety and connections through shared language.
What is true?
If you share this with a child or adolescent, you prove it belongs to you and is yours to share...
What is power?
page 134
The book states children should have physical activity or sensory exercise this often...
What is every 2 hours?
pg. 157
When you child repeatedly asks you to watch what they are doing, try meeting their request with a smile, eye contact and at least 60 seconds of undivided attention is called...
What is being approachable?
This is a procedure, instead of separating the child, aims to connect the parent with the child in a warm and loving way. During this, the parent sits with the child after a misdeed and helps the child calm down and regulate themself.
What is Time-in?
pg. 92
We cannot expect children to show respect until they feels safe and connected.
What is true?
We are made for this and are hardwired for this and if this loving __________ fails, all development fails with it...
What is connection?
pg. 38
Self-care practices in the book x3 include...
What is caring for physical health, get adequate sleep, complete a task, let your mind rest, practice focused attention, play as a family, practice gratitude
pg. 170