The Power and Control Wheel
Insults, name calling, humiliation, and manipulation are examples of what type of abuse?
Emotional Abuse
In your own words, what is meant by the term parental alienation?
example: manipulating visitation, threatening to take away children, making someone feel guilty about the children
What is reactive abuse?
When someone is repeatedly provoked into reacting intensely, and that reaction is then used to shift blame.
What are the four pillars of DV?
Hierarchy, objectification, forced submission, and violence with impunity
Creating an environment where no form of physical, sexual, emotional or verbal harm is done is know by what term?
Non-violence
Destroying property, yelling, threatening, and creating fear are examples of what type of abuse?
Intimidation
What role can extended family, professionals, or social systems play in reinforcing or reducing alienation?
example: can lose objectivity, take sides
What are some examples of provocation?
Gaslighting, invalidation, control, or chronic criticism
How does hierarchy within relationships create conditions for potential abuse?
example: it feeds the power and control dynamic
Listening, valuing another person's opinion, practicing kindness, and honoring boundaries are examples of what?
Respect
Limiting contact with friends or family and controlling where someone can go are examples of what type of abuse?
Isolation
What are some potential long-term effects of parental alienation on children?
examples: problems with relationships, trust issues, identity issues
How do you know when you are reaching your limit?
answers will vary
What are some examples of objectification in everyday language, media, or culture?
examples: refusing to use your name, "high value", thirst traps
Taking responsibility for actions, communicating truthfully, and acknowledging harm when it happens are all examples of what?
Honest and Accountability
Excuses, denying, and blaming are examples of what type of abuse?
Denying, minimizing, and blaming
How can parents communicate respectfully even when trust is low?
example: communication apps, monitoring
What is one technique that can help you pause before reacting?
examples: taking a break, using grounding techniques, boundary setting, and leaving the situation safely
How might survivors internalize submission as a survival strategy?
"If I do what he says, he will be nicer"
Making financial decisions together, sharing access to money, and supporting each other's employment and financial goals are all examples of what?
Economic partnership
Controlling money, withholding resources, and preventing employment are examples of what type of abuse?
Economic abuse
What is one action that can promote safety and connection for a child?
example: playing a game, coloring together, getting down on their level, allowing them to lead play
What does the term DARVO stand for?
Deny, attack, reverse victim and offender
How does impunity (lack of consequences) allow abuse to persist?
Reinforces the behavior
Problem-solving together, compromising when needed, and ensuring both partners' needs are considered are all examples of what?
Negotiation and Fairness