Act it out
Act out what good listening looks like during a conflict
Face the person, make eye contact, nod your head, don't interrupt, repeat back what you heard.
Two classmates are arguing loudly about whose turn it is to use the tether ball at recess. What would you do?
- Suggest they take turns
- Help them talk it out calmly "Let's figure this out. Who was here first?"
- Stay neutral and help them focus on solving the problem
- Get a teacher's help
- Walk away if they won't listen, you don't have to get involved in their argument
True or False: It's always better to ignore a problem than talk about it.
FALSE: Talking about problems helps solve them and prevents them from getting worse.
Someone calls you a mean name. Good choice or bad choice: Ignore them and walk away?
GOOD CHOICE - Walking away prevents the conflict from getting worse and keeps you safe.
What feeling word describes when you're worried about something that might happen?
Anxious, nervous, worried, or concerned.
Show how to compromise with your friend at recess when one of you wants to play foursquare and one of you wants to play on the swings
Both explain what they want, listen to each other's ideas, find something that works for both people, both people agree to the solution, willingness to give up something to make it fair.
You see a classmate being teased by a group of students. What would you do?
When you're really angry, it's okay to yell at someone.
FALSE: What can we do instead?
Your group project partner isn't doing their work. Good choice or bad choice: Do all the work yourself?
BAD CHOICE - Talk to your partner first, then ask the teacher for help. Don't do all the work alone.
Name a feeling word for how you might feel if you don't get invited to a birthday party.
Excluded, left out, hurt, forgotten or disappointed.
Show how you would use "I feel" statements when someone cuts in front of you in line.
Using a respectful, calm tone, you might say something like "I feel frustrated when you cut in line because it's not fair. Can you please go to the back of the line?"
Your group can't agree on what game to play at recess. What would you do?
True or False: If someone hurts your feelings, you should hurt their feelings back.
FALSE: This makes conflicts worse. Instead, tell them how you feel and ask them to stop.
Someone cuts in front of you in line. Good choice or bad choice: Push them out of the way?
BAD CHOICE - Use words, not hands. Say "I was here first" or get a teacher's help.
Name a feeling word for when someone treats you unfairly.
Frustrated, annoyed, irritated, or upset.
Act out how to stay calm when someone says something mean to you.
Someone keeps interrupting you when you're trying to talk. What would you do?
True or False: A good friend never disagrees with you.
FALSE - Good friends can disagree and still be friends. Disagreements are normal and can help us learn.
Someone accidentally bumps into you. Good choice or bad choice: Say "Watch where you're going!"
BAD CHOICE - It was an accident! We all make mistakes and get distracted sometimes.
What's the difference between feeling "disappointed" and feeling "angry"?
Disappointed is sad when something doesn't happen the way you hoped. Angry is mad and might make you want to yell.
Show how to apologize sincerely when you've hurt someone's feelings
1. Look at the person
2. Say "I'm sorry" and mean it
3. Say what you did wrong
4. Ask how to make it better
5. Do something to make it right
You made a mistake that affected your whole group project. What would you do?
Some conflicts can actually make friendships stronger.
TRUE: When people work through conflicts respectfully, they understand each other better and trust each other more.
You see someone being teased. Good choice or bad choice: Tell a teacher right away?
GOOD CHOICE: The person being teased gets help and protection, and the teacher can stop the teasing immediately. You are being a good bystander by speaking up
Explain the difference between being "assertive" and being "aggressive."
Assertive means standing up for yourself in a calm, respectful way. Aggressive means being mean, loud, or hurtful to get what you want.