Rude/Passive-Aggressive/Polite
Will you hurry up already.
Rude.
Your friend had a fight with their parent and is crying. How can you show them respect.
Talk to them. Let them know you are there. Offer to play a game or spend time with them.
Your friend borrowed something of yours without asking. Use an "I feel" statement.
Bonus points to add "Can you please..."
"I feel frustrated when you use my things without asking."
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"Can you please ask me first next time?"
You and your friend have a different opinion about where to go to lunch. How can you compromise?
Pick a third place to go that you both like.
You have to go to the store with your parent but you don't want to go.
Focus on a way to make going to the store fun. Think of something fun you can do when you get home. Ask your parent if you can pick the music in the car. Etc.
Let me know if you need any help.
Polite
Your friend is asking for help with homework.
Talk about a time that you can help. Let them know that even if you are busy you can help another time.
Your friend did not include you in a game at recess. use an "I feel" statement.
Bonus points to add "Can you please..."
"I feel sad that you didn't include me in the game today."
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"Can you please let me play next time?"
You and your friend have a different opinion about what game to play. How can you compromise?
Play the game your friend likes first and the game you like second.
You are struggling with school work and ask your friend for help but they aren't responding to you.
Ask someone else like a parent or teacher. Take a break and ask your friend again later. Talk to your friend about how you felt that they did not respond. Etc.
I really like your toy. Where did you get it?
Polite
Your teacher said that you will lose recess if you do not get your work done.
Calmly let them know how you feel. Ask to take a break or use a coping skill. Ask them for help if you have having trouble with the school work.
One of your classmates called you a mean name.
Bonus points to add "Can you please..."
"I feel hurt that you called me that."
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"Can you please not use that word/talk nicely?"
Your parent wants you to do your chores right now but you want to play a game for the rest of the day.
Ask if you can play for 10 more minutes and then do your chores and play more when you are done.
Kids at recess are playing football but you want to play soccer.
Ask to join the football game and later ask if they want to play soccer another day.
"I'm not mad!!" while proceeding to yell and slam things
Passive Aggressive
Your friend is telling you about something that happened to them over the weekend. How can you show that you are listening.
Make eye contact. Ask questions about what they say.
Your friend canceled plans to spend time with you.
Bonus points to add "Can you please..."
I feel disappointed that you aren't going to come over.
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Can we make plans for you to come over another time?
You are at a theme park and you and your friends disagree on what ride to go on first.
Pick a third ride you both would like to try first.
Your teacher gave you more homework than you thought and you wanted to relax when you got home.
Talk to your teacher. Make a plan to do some work but take breaks too.
"Whatever... It's no big deal..."
Passive-Aggressive, but depends on tone of voice
There is a new kid at school and they are sitting alone at recess.
Invite them to play. Give space if they ask for it.
Your best friend is spending time with another person and hasn't spent as much time with you.
Bonus points to add "Can you please..."
"I feel upset that you are not spending as much time with me."
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"Can we all play together?"
Your sibling is using the bicycle that you want to ride.
Ask if you can use it next and make an agreement to take turns.
Your teacher says everyone has to complete all of their school work before the class can watch a movie. You want to watch the movie now.
You choose which assignment to do first and which to save for last. Take a break if needed. Ask for help if you get stuck or frustrated.