Feel
I went to the Saturday Center and someone in one of the rooms was watching something I don't like! My heart starts beating quickly and I don't feel good.
Scared
They are watching something scary on the TV at the center. What can I do?
Should i run away and go home!?
NO! We can miss so many fun things because we leave. It's okay to feel afraid and tell people we are scared.
Things to do: Find a safe place, Go away from the scary things on TV, ask them nicely to change the channel, take deep breaths, CALMY talk to an adult so they can help me
My teacher is talking to me and I smell something funny when she talks. Her breath smells like coffee and I don't like it. I tell her, "Yuck your breath smells like coffee!"
This is a think NOT say. It wouldn't be a nice thing to say to anyone. I can make my teacher feel bad if I say that.
Someone at school put on lotion that smells really good. I say, "Wow someone smells good in here!"
Someone says, "i like your shirt its very cool".
I say, "yea" and walk away. Is there a better way we could have responded?
yes! We ALWAYS need to remember to say thank you first! And then we can give a compliment back to them as well
* "Oh thank you! I like you ________"
Scared
Worried
I am at the playground and as I am about to go down the slide a bigger kid pushes me hard and I fall. They go down the slide.
That's not nice
I can use my strong voice to tell them: HEY don't push me. I don't like that.
Then I should tell an adult (teacher or parents)
The boy should have waited his turn.
I see someone with shoes that have holes in them. That looks funny so I tell them, "Hey your shoes have holes!!!"
or I say
"Hey you need new shoes your shoes have holes!"
THINK
We don't talk about what others are wearing. What if he doesn't have money for new shoes? Then i may embarrass him. If other people hear it then they can make comments too and that will be bullying.
At the center kids are drawing self portraits. One of them I think looks a bit different than mine but I tell him, "hey nice job! You tried so hard!"
SAY! That is such a nice thing to say! it's okay that you thought it was different but you said something very kind. Encouraging words always help.
I love going to the park
I say: :O or WOW
We could respond better
* I like the park too! What do you like to do?
* i don't like going to the park!
* I like the park only when its not too hot out!
These comments help keep the conversation going
I really wanted a new game on my playstation. My mom and dad have their card saved on the game. I bought two games and then my mom and dad told me I cannot play the games anymore if I ever buy games again. How do i feel? and what can i do next time?
I feel upset and i'll be disappointed if I can't play again.
Next time i should ASK first if I want a game. If my mom and dad say no that's okay. Games COST MONEY. My mom and dad work hard to make money and I can't use it without their permission
Cousins are family and I love my cousins. My cousin is ONLY 4 but they always push me around. I don't like it but I don't tell them to stop.
Someone has a different hair style and it looks a little different to me. I tell them, "Hey your hair is weird."
Think NEVER say
Just because it is different doesn't mean that its "weird". We can say a compliment, "Your hair is different cool!" or we can say nothing at all.
I said, "Hi" to my friends at the Saturday center. One of the little boys did NOT respond to me.
How did I feel?
I felt ignored!
BUT its important to remember some friends at the Saturday center need more help. I can try saying hi one more time and if they don't respond, we can walk away and say Hi to someone else.
My mom and dad said its bed time but I DON'T WANT TO go to sleep. I tell them, "i want to run away!!!!"
Is yelling a good way to solve our problem?
* I can ask my mom and dad for a couple more minutes
* I can take deep breaths and go to bed. My brain needs to rest.
* Running away means I won't see my mommy and daddy anymore! I don't want to run away I can just say I feel upset.
A friend at school is drinking a juice I don't like! Yuck its gross. So i tell him, "yuck your juice is gross! Sunny D is way better."
THINK!!!! Not Say. Everyone likes different things and just because I don't like it doesn't mean its Yucky. Its just not pleasant for me.
Trinice tells me I have to play with friends before I can go in the ball pit room. I don't want to play because they are running toooooo fast!
How can I feel?
I can feel upset or disappointed that I can't use the ball pit.
BUT it is important to also play with friends. We can play with friends then have what we want as well.
I did not get all my points at home, So i did not get enough money for my game. UGH That made me so upset!
Its okay to feel upset! But That doesn't mean I will never get the points, it just means I need to work a little harder and I will get the points next time.
A girl wears a silly hairstyle for crazy hair day at school. I tell her, "Your hair looks so cool!"
Appropriate! Its a compliment and it can make her feel nice