Size of Problem
Your mom asks you to help pick up toys in the living room
Small problem
Your friend yells at you because you won the game you were playing.
Big reaction, small problem
This is one thing that I can do to stay calm when I am asked to do something that I don't want to do
Use my words to say how I'm feeling, ask for a break
You lose a game during recess
1) Wait and cool down
2) Go to another activity
3) Walk away and let it go
When I say or do something that is unexpected, other people might feel this way
Uncomfortable, unsafe
Someone walked by and accidentally pushed you. You did not fall over and did not get hurt.
Small
A friend shares that her parents are getting a divorce and she has been crying every day.
Big reaction, big problem
This is one thing that I can do when my little brother is bothering me
Walk away, find something else to do
Your classmate is kicking your chair
1) Ignore it
2) Talk It Out
3) Tell them to stop
If I respond by screaming and saying "NO" when my mom asks me to help pick up, am I having expected or unexpected behavior?
Unexpected
You have a family member who is very sick and is in the hospital
Big
You scream and cry when your mom asks you to help pick up.
Big reaction, small problem
True or false
When mom asks me to take space in my room she is trying to help me calm down
True
A friend is mad at you that you decided to play with another friend during recess
You can solve the medium problem by:
1) talking it out
2) Use an "I" message
3) Wait and cool down
Expected
A classmate is bullying you.
Small
You are crying and feeling worried because your pet has been missing since yesterday.
Big reaction, big problem
Practice
One way to stay calm when I am angry is by pretending that I am squeezing all the juice out of lemons
Practice doing lemon squeezes
Your mom has asked you to help pick up toys and you only played with a few of them
Stay calm, use your words to talk to mom, help mom pick up because it's the right thing to do
If my mom asks me to leave my brother alone, and I don't give him space, I am having what kind of behavior?
Unexpected
Your brother hit you, you asked him to stop, and he hit you again.
Medium
You calmly ask your mom for help when you can't find something.
Small problem, small reaction
True or false
It is ok to be angry, but it is not ok to hurt other people or things when we are angry.
True
Your best friend tells you to do something that you know is against your parent's rules
Say NO
Other people will have these thoughts about me when I am having expected behaviors
Good, happy, calm, proud