Acronyms
What is Describe?
One or two people talking closely together is an example of this group
Closed Group
Expressing One's Self in DEARMAN
What is relationship effectiveness?
There are six of these
Levels of validation
Person A: Do you know many people here?
Person B: No, I don't know too many people, I do know Susie and Bill. What about you?
Person A: I work with Jane, and she invited me to come. How do you know Susie and Bill?
Person B: That's cool. Susie and Bill are old friends from high school. What kind of work do you do, if you don't mind me asking?
We ask and respond to questions
"I find that if we are able to both come to a compromise with chores, our living situation will improve."
What is Reinforcement? For Bonus? You find this in what skill?
Self Respect Effectiveness is the primary goal when using this skill
What is Fast?
When are thinking about why others may respond, react or lack there of when talking with other folks or engaging with them, we would be considering this skill.
What is mindfulness of others?
What is the T in Fast
We don't share too much or too little; recognizing appropriate time to share information and what to share; people tend to build connection when they are disclosing about the same amount.
When we are "Being Fair" we are thinking about this type of effectiveness.
What is FAST?
When we experience guilt because it is something that violate out morals, values or belief system
What is justified guilt?
Assert yourself and Appear confident are found in this skill
What is DEARMAN?
These are some ideas to consider when thinking about joining a group.
Frequency of the group
Group members are similar in interest, beliefs, hobbies, etc
Groups that are about cooperative gain vs competitive gain
You are allowed to have an opinion, thought, belief that is different from others
What is no apologizing? What skill do we use this? What type of effectiveness are we focusing on?
What is Objective Effectiveness?
Problem Solving, Coping Ahead, Wise Mind, DEARMAN, GIVE and FAST are all skills we may consider when working through this life experience
GIVE mean this
Be Gentle
Act Interested
Validate
Easy Going Manner
Folks are standing somewhat apart and folks are glancing from around the group from time to time
What is an example of an open group.
A full script for DEARMAN, GIVE OR FAST
Act it out
Julie is having a difficult time with the next door neighbors. She has continued to make complaints to the landlord. She can move; however, must wait at least six month as she has no financial means to move until this time. She will likely be thinking about this effectiveness technique in efforts to maintain her current housing.