Cognitive Distortions
"I didn't get all the questions right so I failed completely."
All or Nothing Thinking.
"You should teach your kids to be quiet."
Should Statements
Your significant other keeps leaving dirty clothes on the floor so you choose to ignore it and not bring it up while hoping they will stop.
This behavior is?
Passive
Encourages us to fight for what we want or protect what we have.
Anger
When I write down the things I am grateful for.
Gratitude Journaling.
9 out of 10 people give you positive feedback on your haircut yet you focus on the 1 person who gave negative feedback.
Mental Filter.
"I never make it to work on time.
Overgeneralization
Your significant other keeps leaving dirty clothes on the floor so you choose to cut little wholes in every sock you find on the floor so they will learn to stop leaving them on the floor.
This behavior is?
Passive-Agressive
Encourages us to avoid a situation or motivates us to prepare for a situation.
Anxiety, Fear, Stress
I should focus on positives because...
I want to remember them.
Or
Cognitive Restructuring.
You get a promotion at work and your boss tells you it is because of your great work. You tell yourself, "Nah, they give everyone a promotion once they have worked here this long."
Discounting the Positive
"I'm not even going to ask if I can borrow the car. I already know they will say no."
Or
"That look they gave me means they don't like me."
Jumping to Conclusions - Fortune Telling.
Or
Jumping to Conclusions - Mind Reading.
Your significant other keeps leaving dirty clothes on the floor so you choose to:
Tell them that you have noticed clothes on the floor.
Tell them how it makes you feel that there are clothes on the floor.
Tell them what you would like to happen.
Tell them what the pro's and con's will be associated with leaving clothes on the floor or putting them in the laundry.
This behavior is?
Assertive
Encourages us to engage in situations and look at things creatively.
Broadens our perspective of what is happening.
Happiness, Joy, Hope
What is the difference between people who think they have good luck and people who think they have bad luck.
It depends if they are focused on the positives or negatives in their lives.
Magnification
*Accidentally drops dinner on the floor*
"I'm such an idiot!"
Labeling
Your significant other keeps leaving dirty clothes on the floor so you choose to:
Raise your voice, use derogatory language and use labels while yelling at them for leaving their dirty clothes on the floor again.
This behavior is?
Agressive
Encourages us to avoid others who could potentially judge us.
Bowed head, Slumped posture.
Shame, Humiliation, Self-conscious, Shyness
When I truly thank someone for something they have done for me or given to me.
Sharing gratitude.
Why not? What's the risk? What's the cost?
"It's my fault my parents got a divorce. If only I followed the rules."
Or
"If you would listen we wouldn't argue all the time."
Personalization
Or
Blame
"I feel like I have tried everything. There must be no other options."
Emotional Reasoning
Someone puts their feet up on your bus seat and it is bothering you.
How could this be handled?
What would be most effective?
Passive:
Aggressive:
Passive Aggressive:
Assertive:
Encourages us to seek support.
Sadness, Grief, Depression Etc...
What is "Finding the silver lining" or Paradoxical Gratitude?
Finding the positive in something initially seen as negative.
Or
Finding something to be grateful for in something initially seen as negative.