List two non-verbal language cues.
Facial Expressions - the wordless movements we make with our faces that can show us how someone is feeling. By looking at someone’s face, we can be ‘detectives’ and determine how a person is feeling.
Body Language - a person’s posture, gestures, movement can give us information about their emotions.
Tone of Voice - The way something is said can give us clues to how a person is feeling. The same words can be said in different tones, which may change the meaning of the message. Being able to accurately read voice tone allows us to judge whether a person is angry, or sad, or happy, or scared, or tired - it also gives critical information about whether the person means what they say (are they being sarcastic? joking? sincere? teasing? friendly or unfriendly?)
When you an initiate a conversation what should your body and eyes be doing?
Body facing person, eyes looking towards the person *make sure they are looking back at you*
What is perspective?
Perspective: a point of view or what someone is thinking and/or feeling.
Listening to others when they speak
Turn taking in a conversation
Initiating and maintaining conversations with others
Compromising & resolving conflicts with friends in a positive way
Being a good sport
What is self-advocacy?
We can speak up to share our thoughts, ideas and feelings with our group members.
Why are non-verbal language cues important?
They help us to GUESS how someone is feeling.
How do you know if someone is interested in talking to you?
Are they looking back at you?
Did they say “hi” back to you or answer your question
What tone of voice did they use? Excited or not so excited?
Why is it important to show empathy?
Showing Empathy means showing someone you understand how they feel. Once we understand how they feel and why, we can take an action to show we care.
What is a balanced friendship?
If your hanging out with someone you aren’t going to have one friend choose everything and overpower the other friend- balanced relationship. Let’s say if a friend invites you somewhere one time the next time you invite them. There is a balance.
What are emotions?
Feelings we have towards different situations, the way our body/mind feels about something.
Why is it important to think about others?
Its helps us to think about how other people feel when we are with them and how our actions may affect their thoughts and feelings.
What is a topic radar and why is it important?
Topic Radar to think about topics different people like to discuss in conversation.
It shows we are thinking of them, we care about talking to them and have interest in continuing a conversation with them.
If a friend is sad because they didn’t do well on a test, you can say something like:
“I get how you feel.” or “How are you feeling about that?”
Flexible- being okay if we do not get our exact way. Being able to change and not be rigid.
What is self-control?
The ability to control ourselves by identifying how we are feeling and figuring out how to handle strong and uncomfortable emotions.
Looking down they are upset.
Turning away from us they are uninterested and do not want to talk.
How do you show you are interested in a topic?
Related comments and questions.
Can we still be someone's friend if we have different perspectives? Why or why not?
Two people can also have different perspectives about the same situation (ex: the first game of soccer season, some kids may be excited and others may feel nervous). It is important to think about others and what they may be thinking and be feeling, with the understanding that their feelings may be different than your own.
What is a compromise?
Compromise- to make a deal in which each person gets a little bit of what they want (i.e. a “win-win” situation
Give an example of explaining how you are feeling and why.
I’m upset because you skipped my turn in the game. Can I please have my turn?
1. Notice what the people in the room are doing so we will know how to act; look at the whole room, people in it and what they are doing (we use our eyes)
2. Think about the situation and how you usually act in that situation (we use our brain)
3. Make a plan based on what you see & consider other people's’ feelings
When you an initiate a conversation what should your body and eyes be doing?
Body facing person, eyes looking towards the person *make sure they are looking back at you*
Name the 2 steps we need to do to show empathy.
First- we need to understand how the person is feeling.
Second- we need to take an action that shows them we understand their feelings and want them to feel better.
Why is it important to compromise?
When we compromise it helps us get along better with others, resolves conflicts & helps us maintain friendships & relationships with others.
What are three important factors we must use while we self-advocate.
What words we choose- (example: “That’s not fair, I hate this!” versus “I don’t really like this, is there another choice?”)
Use an appropriate volume- Have a strong, clear voice; do not yell or talk too quietly so that no one hears us.
Use a friendly tone- When we use a friendly tone of voice people will be more likely to help. If we yell or cry other people may feel frustrated or angry and may not want to help us.